Stalling tactics at bedtime

illinoismommy · 09-03-2007, 06:45 PM

David pulls out every stalling tactic in the book at bedtime. Tonight I set a timer and said if we couldn't get ready in time then there wouldn't be stories. The amount of time I set it for still left time for his stalling

and I kept saying "hurry! or we wont have time for a story! let's brush teeth!" .... good idea / bad idea?

09-04-2007, 02:05 AM

i don't know what the 'official' stance on this is, but we often use a timer for things like bedtime, dawdling at the end of meal, getting ready for school, and i think it can be a good non-punitive way for the parents and kids invovled. we set the timer for a generous amount of time for whatever needs to happen during that time and the kids know that when the time is up, it's up and into bed they go or whatever. imo that way it's up to them how they spend it, and if they want to spend their reading time hemming and hawing over pjs, fine. it has reduced the meltdowns here and has taught our kids the value of having time to spend.

klpmommy · 09-04-2007, 04:37 AM

For me since books are part of the bedtime routine I don't like to take them out of the picture totally. However what we do is both kids get to pick one or two books at bedtime but if they are stalling too much & messing around then *I* pick the book we read (only one). That is tragic enough for them to take me seriously w/o messing with our bedtime too much. But we do use a timer a lot at bedtime & I don't see what you are doing as being punitive at all- it is a logical consequence that if he takes too long to do his other stuff he runs out of time for books. It may take a while for it to sink in with him (sometimes P&E still don't really "get it").

Joanne · 09-04-2007, 06:15 AM

It's fine. It's related, respectful and reasonable for his age.

Novella · 09-04-2007, 06:23 AM

Joshua's stalling involves multiple potty trips and water. So, what do I do? I bring his potty to the bedroom with us and have a drink ready.

He has slowed the potty request and drink request down considerably now

09-03-2007, 06:45 PM	#1
illinoismommy Rose Garden Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 25,657	Stalling tactics at bedtime David pulls out every stalling tactic in the book at bedtime. Tonight I set a timer and said if we couldn't get ready in time then there wouldn't be stories. The amount of time I set it for still left time for his stalling and I kept saying "hurry! or we wont have time for a story! let's brush teeth!" .... good idea / bad idea? __________________ Mommy to: Ds (9.5), Dd (7), Ds2 (6), and Ds3 (4.5).

09-04-2007, 02:05 AM	#2
puah Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Stalling tactics at bedtime i don't know what the 'official' stance on this is, but we often use a timer for things like bedtime, dawdling at the end of meal, getting ready for school, and i think it can be a good non-punitive way for the parents and kids invovled. we set the timer for a generous amount of time for whatever needs to happen during that time and the kids know that when the time is up, it's up and into bed they go or whatever. imo that way it's up to them how they spend it, and if they want to spend their reading time hemming and hawing over pjs, fine. it has reduced the meltdowns here and has taught our kids the value of having time to spend.

09-04-2007, 04:37 AM	#3
klpmommy Deactivated Beware the gorgon, she's having a bad hair day Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: DFW area Posts: 54,024	Re: Stalling tactics at bedtime For me since books are part of the bedtime routine I don't like to take them out of the picture totally. However what we do is both kids get to pick one or two books at bedtime but if they are stalling too much & messing around then I pick the book we read (only one). That is tragic enough for them to take me seriously w/o messing with our bedtime too much. But we do use a timer a lot at bedtime & I don't see what you are doing as being punitive at all- it is a logical consequence that if he takes too long to do his other stuff he runs out of time for books. It may take a while for it to sink in with him (sometimes P&E still don't really "get it").

09-04-2007, 06:15 AM	#4
Joanne Deactivated Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 8,066	Re: Stalling tactics at bedtime It's fine. It's related, respectful and reasonable for his age.

09-04-2007, 06:23 AM	#5
Novella Rose Trellis Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: NC Posts: 3,093	Re: Stalling tactics at bedtime Joshua's stalling involves multiple potty trips and water. So, what do I do? I bring his potty to the bedroom with us and have a drink ready. He has slowed the potty request and drink request down considerably now __________________ Cindy Formerly Mommy2Joshua2004 A classic ENFP (but sometimes J) loving my ESTJ DH Mommy to J and E Weightloss Blog: http://fattygirljourney.blogspot.com/

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