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08-03-2006, 07:56 AM | #1 |
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ETLDTD - Week 3, Wednesday, Thursday
From Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey
WEEK THREE ATTITUDE SHIFT: Harnessing the Power of Free Will REASON: The only person you can make change is yourself DISCIPLINE SKILL: Choices VALUE: Commitment *Allow others to have their own thoughts and feelings. Pay attention to what you feel when people disagree with you. (most of us feel threatened) *Resist the need to make others happy or convince them that you have all the answers. remind yourself three times a day, "the only person i can make change is myself." then choose to be pleasant and share that with others. CHOICES: Building self-esteem and willpower *Do not give children choices in areas where you are afraid to make a decision. you are the boss. *Give children two positive choices as a way of setting limits. use the following formula to get started. 1. "you may ________ or ____________." 2. "what is your choice?" 3. "you chose ________!"
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08-03-2006, 08:07 AM | #2 | |
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Re: ETLDTD - Week 3, Wednesday, Thursday
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08-03-2006, 09:16 AM | #3 |
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Re: ETLDTD - Week 3, Wednesday, Thursday
This is one I struggle with. I think I'm following it just fine. I offer choices, and that works very well. And I'm fully aware that I'm the only one I have control over (my parents made that perfectly clear to me as a kid, in a not so nice way). But I don't get how to use this to "help" dd make the decision I want her to make!!! lol Any tips???
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08-03-2006, 10:56 AM | #4 | |
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Re: ETLDTD - Week 3, Wednesday, Thursday
WOW . . . what a great quote:
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My other related idea, I find that reflecting my toddler's feelings helps remind ME that his feelings are okay. I hear people say "what do you do about tantrums," and I wonder how much the "problem" with a crying, frustrated child is in how we see it. Why is it their upset a problem? I'm working on this. Last night it was time to turn off the tv (yes I know, too much tv ) and he started to scream and get sad. I said something like, "it is sad to say bye-bye to Blues Clues. You are sad. You like Blue so much. When we like something, it is sad to say goodbye." I didn't say "you're okay!" or even explain that we'll see Blue tomorrow (probably first thing in the morning ). I just tried to stay with him in that feeling, respect it, and for BOTH of us, say "hey, here's some sad going on. That's okay, we will still have a bath and story. I am bigger than your big feelings." |
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