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02-12-2006, 09:42 AM | #1 |
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Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
I heard about TCS (taking children seriously) and looked it up on the web. I can see some of the points that are made, but other things seem to be based on assumptions that I don't think are true. Plus, God is left completely out of the theory. Any thoughts?
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02-12-2006, 09:50 AM | #2 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
I've heard of it, I was on their mailing list for awhile and came to similar conclusions.
There's couple of threads here titled Permissive vs GBD that include the difference between GBD and TCS that seem to nail it, to my mind. |
02-12-2006, 09:53 AM | #3 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
Yes I've seen and looked at it. Its not for me I also think its quite disrespectful to the development of a child
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02-12-2006, 11:31 AM | #5 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
Crystal, your article is great. If I never coerced my DD, she'd have a horrible diaper rash because about 25% of the time she really fights diaper changes. I know that 30 seconds of coercion, based upon my wisdom that the diaper needs to be changed, is not harmful to her (and actually beneficial as diaper rash is painful) and that as she grows she will see this, too. Just one example of many I could present . . .
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02-12-2006, 11:42 AM | #6 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
I wanted to mention that GCM does not embrace the philosophy behind TCS ("Taking Children Seriously") or non-coercive parenting. Here's our statement...
http://www.gentlechristianmothers.co...?topic=32243.0
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02-12-2006, 11:47 AM | #7 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
thanks for the article Crystal! I keep hearing about it in other circles and it just seems
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02-12-2006, 07:44 PM | #8 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
Thanks for the responses. Armsoflove, your article was especially illuminating. Nicely done!
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02-12-2006, 07:48 PM | #9 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
Great article!! Depends? |
02-13-2006, 02:34 PM | #10 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
Yeah, I was gonna say...Depends??? Not intervening with a suicide???
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02-13-2006, 05:36 PM | #11 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
This is exactly why I can't hang out at MDC's gentle discipline board. I don't believe non-coercive is how God deals with me, so why would I do that to my child? Just seems wrong to me and I get frustrated over there about it.
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
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02-13-2006, 08:08 PM | #13 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
Thankyou for the links on this. I once saw a discussion on non-coerciveness about a child who wanted to play in the ocean when it was raining. It was cold but the child did not want to get out. Someone actually said "if it's raining, it can't be that cold!" This really pushed my buttons because I grew up in a rainy climate and it is downright dangerous to a child run around in the ocean here. Everything in my heart screamed "get that baby inside and dry him off whether he wants you to or not!"
Sadly this seems to be a stumbling block for so many well-meaning parents -- that the child's unhappiness means we're doing something wrong as parents. It's been liberating for me to realize I can just do what I need to do to take care of DS, and keeping going, and his big feelings aren't part of the problem. |
02-13-2006, 08:40 PM | #14 |
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Re: Has anyone ever heard of non-coercive parenting?
Totally OT but I just had to chime in and say that I love your avatar. Your girls are gorgeous!
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