I saw a sis swatting 8 mo old bro - brings back memories

06-28-2005, 02:16 PM

This last weekend, I was at DQ with the family and I was watching all the families there. I saw this one little guy - I guessed he was 8 months old - kind of throw something at his big sister. She was annoyed and just swatted at him.

Fortunately, she missed.

And that took me back ... I was 11 and my younger brother was 3. I had a friend over and he would not leave us alone, even though I told him to several times. I then hit him as hard as I could, across his head.

I felt sick afterword and apologized up and down. I felt like I was the worst person in the world to do that to such a small person. I could never take it back.

But then again, I was just doing what I had learned: hitting gets you what you want.

So that's another reason (among the many) that I will never spank my dc.

ArmsOfLove · 06-28-2005, 03:35 PM

Wonder Woman · 06-28-2005, 03:49 PM

Heather Micaela · 06-28-2005, 04:30 PM

we are recent "converts" to GD. One of the reasons is my sons need to discipline his sister who is only two years younger. Even when the misbhavior is not directed at him

he still feel the need to yell "NO" or "spank" her

. I used to say only mommy can spank. But that didn't work well becuse he would just tell me what "bad" thing she was doing. Often he was TRYING to be protecrtive.

It is so much EASIER to say "we don't hit in this family" I fuigure if I model gentle disciplin, if he still feels the need to discipline his sister (which I keep explaining is not his job- his job is to play with her) at least he will learn to do it in an apptopriate way.

06-28-2005, 10:06 PM

Hi Heather,

That happened in our house, too. My older brother got out my dad's belt and smacked me with it ... with the buckle end ... OUCH!

You're smart to see this pattern now and finding a better way of disciplining.

06-28-2005, 02:16 PM	#1
Dizzy Blond Guest Posts: n/a	I saw a sis swatting 8 mo old bro - brings back memories This last weekend, I was at DQ with the family and I was watching all the families there. I saw this one little guy - I guessed he was 8 months old - kind of throw something at his big sister. She was annoyed and just swatted at him. Fortunately, she missed. And that took me back ... I was 11 and my younger brother was 3. I had a friend over and he would not leave us alone, even though I told him to several times. I then hit him as hard as I could, across his head. I felt sick afterword and apologized up and down. I felt like I was the worst person in the world to do that to such a small person. I could never take it back. But then again, I was just doing what I had learned: hitting gets you what you want. So that's another reason (among the many) that I will never spank my dc.

06-28-2005, 03:35 PM	#2
ArmsOfLove Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 79,607	Re: I saw a sis swatting 8 mo old bro - brings back memories __________________ Crystal "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Maya Angelou

06-28-2005, 03:49 PM	#3
Wonder Woman Deactivated Yep. I'm a 3. Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 19,140	Re: I saw a sis swatting 8 mo old bro - brings back memories

06-28-2005, 04:30 PM	#4
Heather Micaela Rose Garden Bar/Bat Mitzvah picture with husband Michael. Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Within sight and earshot of the Disneyland fireworks Posts: 39,893	Re: I saw a sis swatting 8 mo old bro - brings back memories we are recent "converts" to GD. One of the reasons is my sons need to discipline his sister who is only two years younger. Even when the misbhavior is not directed at him he still feel the need to yell "NO" or "spank" her . I used to say only mommy can spank. But that didn't work well becuse he would just tell me what "bad" thing she was doing. Often he was TRYING to be protecrtive. It is so much EASIER to say "we don't hit in this family" I fuigure if I model gentle disciplin, if he still feels the need to discipline his sister (which I keep explaining is not his job- his job is to play with her) at least he will learn to do it in an apptopriate way. __________________ Heather ESFJ T4 Messianic Joshua-13 Christina- 11 Amalia Linda-8.5 Trinity-7 Gabriel-5 w/ADHD, ASD & Dyslexia Taylor Jordan11/15/04 SkyeDakota10/12/05 Life is a pile of good things & bad things The good things don't always soften the bad things but the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things

06-28-2005, 10:06 PM	#5
Dizzy Blond Guest Posts: n/a	Re: I saw a sis swatting 8 mo old bro - brings back memories Hi Heather, That happened in our house, too. My older brother got out my dad's belt and smacked me with it ... with the buckle end ... OUCH! You're smart to see this pattern now and finding a better way of disciplining.

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