3 under 3?

[Fallin2Grace]

For anyone that has (or will have) 3 under 3, what made you decide on this? What factors did you think about to come to your final decision? I know i must be crazy because DS2 is only 7 weeks old, but I am particularly fond of the age gap (17 months). Which surprises me, because even though we planned it that way (close in age),I was freaked out during my entire pregnancy with Elliot about having 2 kids. But now that he is here...i wouldn't change it! In fact i think it was harder transitioning from 1 child to 2...but now im thinking about the practicalities of it all....for instance, what about the car? We are a one car family and a one income family, so getting a second car is not an option. but our current car only holds two carseats....or what about grocery shopping or going out on your own with the kids? I babywear ALOT (always have). As it stands know my Isaiah will either sit in the cart or the stroller while I wear Elliot. If im with DH then we each babywear...but what about adding 3 into the mix? How do you get out and about with 3...especially if your oldest is crazy active and always wanting to run off everywhere plus is strong willed? How does it all work?:scratch

So im just looking for experiences, advice, ideas, just anything :D
Before the birth of Elliot we were dead set, not having more children for another 5 years..but now that he is here, it almost seems like it wouldn't make sense for us to wait, especially if we have a girl this time, then she would be our last (unless of course the Lord decides to bless us with a surprise...or i change my mind :lol), but anyways, if we only end up having 3 then i wouldn't want #3 to feel left out because the older two are so close in age and such.

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Evening ladies, Im back!

So DS2 is almost 7 months old. We are still BFing :heart . DH and I decided to wait until Jan 2014 to TTC #3 (which would put about a 3ish year age gap between #2 and #3). I was happy about our choice, however, i am now faced with a new dilemma. ...i should have prefaced by saying, that i honestly got scared off having 3 under 3. :blush , but now i am back because of a change in circumstances.

As it turns out, i have severe bladder and rectal prolapse. Ive had a lot of symptoms and its really affecting things. Ive seen 2 doctors about this (one was an OBGYN the other was my family doctor- Im going to be meeting with a specialist soon). But anyways, they tell me i have at least a 3rd degree prolapse and it will def require surgery to fix. I can try the pessary device, however, its highly unlikely to work bc of the degree of the prolapse. I am still going to try it though, but anyways, they wont do the surgery until I am done having kids. (Im only 24). We decided that we are only going to have 3 babies, and when i told the doc that we want one more and when we plan on TTC, i was basically advised that I should have the last one sooner, rather than later. Ive been getting UTIs, cant drain my bladder, in discomfort all of the time, cant pass stoles, etc etc. Its pretty bad....but now this just throws a wrench into the mix because i dont know what to do. Im scared of having 3 under 3, and plus im still BFing. I just dont know what to do about it. I think in the long run, 3 under 3 will be easier (when they get older), but initially is what i am worried about. The reason why they are advising having the last one sooner is because i cant get the problem fixed until then.


i have prayed about this, but i dont seem to be hearing Him very well. :shrug3 Part of me thinks we should just NTNP and whatever happens was Gods plan, but I dont really know if thats accurate and im just feeling SO on the fence about waiting or if i should not wait.

what would you do in this situation? DH says he doesn't care either way...and recently he has had this "lets just have one and get it over with" attitude.

[Emerald Orchid]

I'm not fond of closely-spaced children, so maybe I shouldn't chime in. :shifty

I know a number of moms who had close children (3 under 3 type) and they say they liked the spacing once the kids were out of diapers. Before that, it's just a blur. :giggle

IMHO, having children so close takes quite a toll on mom's body. I'm not totally sure we were meant to have children so close, KWIM?

Also I don't know if you lose your milk supply while pregnant, but that is something to think about as well.

[Fallin2Grace]

Also I don't know if you lose your milk supply while pregnant, but that is something to think about as well.

That is true... i hadnt considered that since DS1 weaned himself at 5 months (little stinker! :doh) so i didnt have to consider that when TTC again...im hoping this one nurses for much longer.:nak2

[Barefoot Bookworm]

My first had just turned two when my third was born. My fourth was born when my oldest was still three (for two more months anyway). I will tell you that two to three was hard because I suddenly didn't have enough arms for all of my kids. It's difficult to do it that way when they are so very young that they NEED your arms.

All in all, I love it. It does get overwhelming and some days I wonder what in the world I was thinking. The first year of my third child's life really WAS a blur. But I wouldn't trade it for the world. Especially now that they are getting a little older, I really love it.

However, my body, does not. I had increasingly worse pregnancies and now I keep throwing out my back because my core strength has gone kaput. I also didn't get to nurse my older three (for complicated reasons) which is why they are all so close in age. I've been up and down in weight over the past 5 years and my body is definitely showing signs of stress over it.

[chasingbutterflies]

I had 3 under 3, not on purpose.

I would never, ever, in a million years, do it on purpose again. Accidentally was bad enough :shifty

I lost my milk (and #2 was the one most attached to breastfeeding). #3 was a ROUGH pregnancy, my body was done with being pregnant and it was obvious. Postpartum was hard, and was even harder with having to chase an almost 3yo and a 1 1/2 year old - and my husband is very helpful and took 3 weeks off of work. I didn't make it to a year breastfeeding #3 - he was weaned to formula at 10 months - and part of it was that my poor body was just all worn out.

I could go on. But yea, at least for me, it was awful. I don't recommend it, honestly.

Sorry for such a negative post :shifty

[SweetCaroline]

i had 3 in 3..actually i had 4 in 4yrs. :phew :phew
like Lexi,I didnt nurse the first 2- so i was pregnant at 3 mo.pp. i didnt plan to have babies so close together..but i didnt plan not to either,yk?

looking back..i dont think i gave everybody quite the attention i should have - and my body is *trashed*

BUT..i wouldnt take it back - or advise someone not to have children close together :no..they're all best friends. its alot of fun :hearts

eta:i was nursing when i got pregnant with #5..and my milk went away-so that IS a concern, a BIG concern for a small baby.

[chasingbutterflies]

oh and i loved the 18m spacing the first time (we did it on purpose). it was the second time that was awful.

[Fallin2Grace]

Thanks girls.

yeah....BFing is very important to me...and i have such a go with it since I have IGT, so i guess you all have made me realize that i def dont want to get pregnant before this little one self weans....

[joysworld]

All three of mine are between 14-16 months apart. We didn't 'plan' but we didn't prevent. One word of caution, going from 2 to 3 kids was so incredibly hard, so much harder than going from 1 to 2. When we came home, dh took a week off. I was so scared for him to go back to work. It was hard enough when he was home all day to help out. After he went back to work, I was miserable. I wasn't sleeping because the baby nursed literally all.night.long, and my middle child was an early riser, like 5 am early. I really thought we had a made a HUGE mistake having a third so close in age with the other two.

Another caution, and you may have noticed this when you had your second, is that no matter how young your youngest is, when you have your baby, the one that was the youngest is literally visually not a baby. I know I made a huge error when I brought home my second and third, expecting the older two to behave in ways that was beyond their scope. I'm speaking generally here:)

But with that said, my youngest turns four next week, and I wouldn't change the age range for anything. They all three play really well together (most of the time ;)). The youngest and oldest will happily play together. The older two will do the same, as will the younger two, or they will all three play together.

[ValiantJoy07]

I do not have 3 under three but 3 in 4years (and 26 days ;)) :phew I daily ask myself what I was thinking...my first 2 are 19 months apart...I love the gap. :yes the transition from 1 to 2 was hard but nothing like 0 to 1 was. I thought. A 2.5 year gap between #2 and #3 would be great..mthat is 1 whole year more than I got before and it seemed doable. I wish I had factored in what physically, mentally and emotionally would be involved in parenting a 3 year old while preggo (my pregnancies are hard) :crazy and 2 yo :crazy :crazy :crazy


I would encourage anyone just thinking on these things that your kids change...this can be good and BAAAD. Some stages will be "easy" and others will he hard...and don't make any decisions regarding fertility and family until you have experienced ages 2-4 with a couple of kids and seen how different they can be and how truly (awesome but) WILD CRAZY INSANE the stages can be.

This time last year I had a 19 month old and a 3 year old who were blooming into little buddies ..mi thought "they grow so fast...i don't want #3 to he all alone.:shifty

I can see now 3 years is a small gap...to me 4 years is a small gap. :shifty

Looking back, i cant say id change anything..i just couldn't have known how wild and intense 2 yo would be for dd2... and I do like that dd3 wont be super far behind them :yes


But had I the choice, I might have waited a couple more years and had another "batch" of little buddies. Being super pregnant with 2 small extremely active children is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. Parenting 2 small very dependent children and caring for a newborn....totally different ball game than the adjustments I remember from last time.

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Eta I don't mean to be so dramatic :O we've had a rough week..mans like a pp said about age expectant behaviors and struggling with your previous baby: I Ak there right now. but "2" with her makes what we dealt with dd1 seem like nothing. She. (Dd2) is struggling with the new dynamic..and it is hard to be 2.5. :bheart


I love having 3 ...and in the end I don't think anyone would trade the dynamic they were given for anything..its just the adjustment period is hard.

[Sparrow]

I have a friend, who has 3 girls, all 18 months apart, almost to the day. Her 3rd girl was born a couple days after her first girl's 3rd birthday.

She loves it. They are now 12, almost 11 and 9.

[Elspeth]

Since I'll have a 3yo, a 20mo, and newborn at the end of summer, I was hoping to read more encouraging/hopeful responses.

The only thing that close pregnancies have taken a toll on is my energy level. Other than that, I don't really have any health issues. :shrug3

We are a one car and one income family right now, and our car won't fit 3 carseats either. DH is looking for more work as well, so we're really having to just trust God to provide the finances and vehicle. We didn't "plan" any of our children, and certainly weren't thinking of having them this close, but God did and if he provides for the sparrows, he won't leave us high and dry. Plus it seems kind of nice to have kids close together and then be done for good.

[illinoismommy]

I had 3 under 3 and 3 under 4 twice, and if I could perfectly plan these things, I would have 2 close together, a significant space, and then 2 more close together. 3 close really limits your mobility, even more than 2. There are places you can't go because you can't safely watch everyone, etc. It can be very isolating. Its also hard on a marriage when there are more kids of a carrying age than you can get into a restaurant with two parents or things like that. Not mention you are very tired. Having a 19 month old and a baby is pretty easy compared to a 1 year old, 2 year old, and 3 year old-- or a 2yo, 3yo, and 4yo. That is a lot harder than when you have the one of the carrying age. When your kids get bigger it won't be as easy as it is now. Enjoy! But just know that if you throw that 3rd one in there, its going to be a ride.

Sorry to be a downer... but my husband did cheat and abandon his wife and kids while in the throws of 4 small kids and I am sure it had a factor in it, though most husbands won't jump off the deep end.

[Fallin2Grace]

:hunh ...ok...now im not so sure about having them close...:scratch

[illinoismommy]

Lol.... you'll be fine, great even, just stick with the 2! Give it a rest and then have more later. You won't regret the resting period, and you're so young you have lots of time.

I love my kids <3

[Barefoot Bookworm]

Hah, I think I'm opposite of Janet because it was harder when they were newborn, 15 months, and 25 months for me. It is SOOOO much easier with 2, 3, and 4 (plus my 7 month old) for me. Even out and about, I think it's much easier because my 2, 3, and 4 year olds can walk while I wear the baby on my back. I often have my 3 year old's hand in mine or in a monkey backpack because he has the tendency to run but it's definitely easier. Running errands today I had a baby on my back, the 3 year old wearing his monkey backpack but the 2 and 4 year old held the tail while the 3 year old held my hand. No issues whatsoever.

ETA: Don't get me wrong, it takes energy but it's so much easier than wearing one, carrying two or hauling a heavy double stroller, etc.

[Llee]

If we were planning on another one, I'd want to get through 2.5 with the youngest before I'd even consider having a 3rd. :shifty

I have easy pregnancies, births and so far, the first few months with both girls were all right. But pregnancy takes a toll on my teeth and it takes me a good year to be fully 100% again after birth. For those reasons, I'd wait for a bit.

FWIW, my brothers are 7 and 8 years older than I am and I didn't ever feel left out. :shrug They let me tag along--by the time they were in high school, it was kinda cool to have a little sister. :giggle

[eoconnel]

I had 3 in four years and it is very hard. My body did not really have time recover and get back to normal before I got pregnant again. Also my nurslings weaned while I was pregnant. If I had it all to do over again I would have put at least 2 more years in between 2 and 3.
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[Niphredil]

I had 3 under 3.25 ;)... I wouldnt want to do it again. :shiver It was a hard, long, exhausting year.

Like Janet I had wanted to do two two years apart, flourish year break then two more. Alas, someone else had different plans.

I know we're better for it, but it was a tough year.

[SamRose]

Funny, my dh had the same plan some of you mentioned: a close pair, a decent space, then another close pair. Too bad I got preg w/ our 3rd while actively TTA the month after he decided that was a good plan. :P~
So we ended up w/ 3 under 3.5yrs. It was definitely a challenge. The 3rd child I ended up with certainly made it more difficult that it would have been had she been a "normal" baby, though. :giggle She was crawling & walking VERY early, so I never really got a break btwn havin a toddler and a baby, I just kept cycling back to it, and it was exhausting. Having at least a baby & toddler or 2 toddlers for 4.5 years wears ya out. :shrug3
And the milk supply is another big factor in the "if I would've had a choice, I might have given more space" thoughts. All of my kids weaned during the subsequent pregnancies, for different reasons & at different ages, but always at the same time in the pregnancy. It's kinda weird, actually.
But yeah, even though I LOVE the close spacings for a lot of things, and I think in the long run they have more pros than cons for the kids & family (mom's body probably not), there are definitely a lot of things to think about before purposely having kids a lot more closely spaced that what seems to be the biological ideal God set up.

[Castle On A Cloud]

I did not have three under three... my oldest was newly 4 when my 3rd was born. I can speak to the spacing though. I have a 17 m, 2y 9m, and 2y 6m spacing. For the breastfeeding alone, I would prefer to not get pregnant until closer to two yrs old. Other than that, I like the bigger age gap because then the smaller one is not too small to be on their own for a while, kwim?

[WanderingJuniper]

I didn't have 3 in roughly 3 years on purpose (I actually didn't expect to have 3 at all :bag) but I can say I absolutely LOVE it now. The first 5 years was just a form of survival though. :shifty Somedays were fabulous and my cup was just overflowing with love toward my family and from my family. Other days. . .well . . . they left me crying on the kitchen floor when I should have been cooking dinner. :sigh

We were a one car family for the first year of Sage's life. That was hard :yes We were able to fit 3 carseats across but it was not easy. :no Eventually we just jumped in and bought a 3 row vehicle.

There is lots and lots of "hard" with so many littles but there is good too. :yes

ETA: If you have to solo parent for any length of time for any reason I would not recommend intentionally trying for 3 so close together. My darkest moment were during the times when I had to solo parent three small children b/c of Bart's work schedule. Those were the times when I mopped the floor with my tears.

[chasingbutterflies]

ETA: If you have to solo parent for any length of time for any reason I would not recommend intentionally trying for 3 so close together. My darkest moment were during the times when I had to solo parent three small children b/c of Bart's work schedule. Those were the times when I mopped the floor with my tears.

yeah. This may be part of why I would never do it again on purpose. Solo parenting with 3 essentially babies is so, so hard.

[Barefoot Bookworm]

Most definitely on the not solo parenting three that close. My husband gets home at 4pm (he's a teacher) and some days I was sobbing on the phone while he was driving home telling him to get home RIGHT THEEEN (and bring cocaine. Not that I've ever done drugs in my life nor would he even be able to find it but I was convinced cocaine had to help. :lol).

[Cookie Momster]

I've had three 3 and under twice (and four 5 and under). IT WAS NOT INTENTIONAL! LOL Of course I wouldn't change them, but yeah, exhausting. Adding #3 was the hardest for me. Being out numbered (or out handed) really does add another dynamic, especially when I have the kids by myself most of the time (which means doing things like grocery shopping with ALL the children by myself, etc.) I don't know what I would have done without the help of #1 who is 4.5yrs older than #2. Having said that, now that my "older set" are 5, almost 4 and almost 2 I'm loving the built it play mates and see a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel. My advice is if you plan to have only 3 kids have the 3rd one fairly close (maybe start trying once #1 turns one so baby has a full year of nursing) but if you plan to have 4 I would do 2 close together, a space, then another 2 close together.

[Fallin2Grace]

Thank you for your advice yall. I really appreciate it...
I def will not be TTC until my son self weans, so it could end up being a while anyways (or at least i hope he nurses for a long time for his benefit), but i guess God will bless us when He sees fit...im really not sure what to do....if we had a girl this time (and we lived in a perfect world LOL) we would stop at 3. But if we dont then we will go on to have 4...of course i never underestimate God! If He decides otherwise. I am so glad no one sugar coated anything. I wanted the truth, so thank you for your boldness! I have to admit, now im starting to think maybe we shouldnt have 3 close together...though i havn't made my mind up...so confused....in His time though....in His time.

oh and i have no concerns about solo parenting, in the sense that i shouldn't have ever do that (never know though...). My husband works 9am-4:30pm like clockwork...and he has flexibility. Good steady job, so...unless something happens to the company we are fine..which i wouldn't anticipate since its Liberty Mutual, but dont want to put all of my eggs in one basket LOL

[Fallin2Grace]

Evening ladies, Im back!

So DS2 is almost 7 months old. We are still BFing :heart . DH and I decided to wait until Jan 2014 to TTC #3 (which would put about a 3ish year age gap between #2 and #3). I was happy about our choice, however, i am now faced with a new dilemma. ...i should have prefaced by saying, that i honestly got scared off having 3 under 3. :blush , but now i am back because of a change in circumstances.

As it turns out, i have severe bladder and rectal prolapse. Ive had a lot of symptoms and its really affecting things. Ive seen 2 doctors about this (one was an OBGYN the other was my family doctor- Im going to be meeting with a specialist soon). But anyways, they tell me i have at least a 3rd degree prolapse and it will def require surgery to fix. I can try the pessary device, however, its highly unlikely to work bc of the degree of the prolapse. I am still going to try it though, but anyways, they wont do the surgery until I am done having kids. (Im only 24). We decided that we are only going to have 3 babies, and when i told the doc that we want one more and when we plan on TTC, i was basically advised that I should have the last one sooner, rather than later. Ive been getting UTIs, cant drain my bladder, in discomfort all of the time, cant pass stoles, etc etc. Its pretty bad....but now this just throws a wrench into the mix because i dont know what to do. Im scared of having 3 under 3, and plus im still BFing. I just dont know what to do about it. I think in the long run, 3 under 3 will be easier (when they get older), but initially is what i am worried about. The reason why they are advising having the last one sooner is because i cant get the problem fixed until then.


i have prayed about this, but i dont seem to be hearing Him very well. :shrug3 Part of me thinks we should just NTNP and whatever happens was Gods plan, but I dont really know if thats accurate and im just feeling SO on the fence about waiting or if i should not wait.

what would you do in this situation? DH says he doesn't care either way...and recently he has had this "lets just have one and get it over with" attitude.

[purplerose]

I didn't have 3 UNDER 3, but have my 3rd when my oldest was 3.5 yo. It was tough. My dh was deployed all the time, so that made a big difference too. It was a LOT of work, diapers diapers, messes messes, crying crying, fighting fighting! But once they got a big older, it was great that they all could play well (mostly) together. Now they are 10, 9 and 7 and it's AWESOME! :tu I didn't plan it this way, it just happened!

[ThirstyTurtle]

I had 3 under 3 (for 12 days, and then I had 3 that were 3 and under).

I had a hard time going from 1 kid to 2 kids (16 mths apart), and the additional of the 3rd wasn't the same level of adjustment. However, it is day in and day out logistically hard at time. I had 3 in diapers for 6 months and many mornings I spent the first 2-3 hours just almost non-stop changing poopy diapers. :-/

I would do it again rather than spacing them out. It is nice to get the stages over with and done in a short period of time. Just realize for the first couple years it's just going to be physically and logistically challenging, but then it gets much better.

[Llee]

Will you have more help now or more help later?

[dakotablue]

Evening ladies, Im back!

So DS2 is almost 7 months old. We are still BFing :heart . DH and I decided to wait until Jan 2014 to TTC #3 (which would put about a 3ish year age gap between #2 and #3). I was happy about our choice, however, i am now faced with a new dilemma. ...i should have prefaced by saying, that i honestly got scared off having 3 under 3. :blush , but now i am back because of a change in circumstances.

As it turns out, i have severe bladder and rectal prolapse. Ive had a lot of symptoms and its really affecting things. Ive seen 2 doctors about this (one was an OBGYN the other was my family doctor- Im going to be meeting with a specialist soon). But anyways, they tell me i have at least a 3rd degree prolapse and it will def require surgery to fix. I can try the pessary device, however, its highly unlikely to work bc of the degree of the prolapse. I am still going to try it though, but anyways, they wont do the surgery until I am done having kids. (Im only 24). We decided that we are only going to have 3 babies, and when i told the doc that we want one more and when we plan on TTC, i was basically advised that I should have the last one sooner, rather than later. Ive been getting UTIs, cant drain my bladder, in discomfort all of the time, cant pass stoles, etc etc. Its pretty bad....but now this just throws a wrench into the mix because i dont know what to do. Im scared of having 3 under 3, and plus im still BFing. I just dont know what to do about it. I think in the long run, 3 under 3 will be easier (when they get older), but initially is what i am worried about. The reason why they are advising having the last one sooner is because i cant get the problem fixed until then.


i have prayed about this, but i dont seem to be hearing Him very well. :shrug3 Part of me thinks we should just NTNP and whatever happens was Gods plan, but I dont really know if thats accurate and im just feeling SO on the fence about waiting or if i should not wait.

what would you do in this situation? DH says he doesn't care either way...and recently he has had this "lets just have one and get it over with" attitude.

Your health is so important. If it were me, I wouldn't want to go through a pregnancy in the state your in. I'd be very very sad because I love being pregnant, but my children need me healthy, and what your describing sounds awful :hugheart. Take my advice though with a large dose of we plan to adopt and are agreed on that already. AND I'm not a happy person when unhealthy. If we weren't wanting to adopted then I might want to squeeze in one more pregnancy right away and plan for surgery as soon as baby was born.

I am so sorry your health is so bad :hugheart

[Fallin2Grace]

Will you have more help now or more help later?

It will be equal help (which is basically just DH). We relocated a couple of years ago. No family around. We have made some church friends but not any all that close. So for us, we are used to not having help as we never had it in the first place.
Although, DHs mom may come up when I have to get the surgery bc i hear its pretty brutal (im scared of the surgery and the long term implications and risks from it, but it has to be done). At any rate, the only help we will have is once i get surgery, but once i recover, she will go back home (10 hour drive from herE).

[Fallin2Grace]

Well i met with my specalist today. ...God couldn't have been more clear about what it is that He wants us to do! I love it when that happens!


so my appt went good and bad...good bc i have an answer now and some direction, bad bc i got some unexpected medical issues.

i have 3rd degree bladder prolapse, 2nd degree rectal prolapse, 2nd degree uterine prolapse, and for the kicker...Endometriosis....yeah....soo, she was really thorough, she taught me with different learning tools exactly what was going on with my body and she was very good at hearing me out too. I am going to get fitted for a pessary device next week. But she said with the severity of the prolapses, at this point non surgical measures are not going to profoundly impact the prolapses getting better...which stinks, but im not surprised, its in line with what i read. Then we discussed the Endometriosis. It has gotten worse in the last 6 months (the only reason i know is bc since giving birth ive had some weird thing on my cervix and vagina, i chalked it up to damage from the birth but turns out those are actually endo cells). In light of the prolapse needing to be fixed and in light of the fact that the endo is progressing and she told me it will just keep progressing. it will get worse until menopause (WOAH!), that we should really think about having our last baby...like right now...or soon. ...so DH and i really feel like we should NTNP until January. I dont even have my cycles back yet since im BFing. but i pray they come back. I dont want to cut LO short at the breast but if my cycles are not back by Jan, then ill start weaning enough to get them back...i feel really badly and guilty about it, but at the same time he will almost be one year old. ..but its hard for me not to feel bad...but i know this is all in God's hands.

Today i am thankful...i am thankful that the Lord put it on my heart to get married young. I am grateful that God put it on my heart to have babies at a young age and to have them close together. My doctor told me had i waited until my late 20s (like more ppl these days), i may have had infertility. Thank you God for placing desires on my heart. You are so awesome to have known that this was going to happen. You are amazing. and you work in such mysterious ways! I had no idea why i had the convictions i did about marrying Stephen or having babies, but now i do. Amazing:heart

[Barefoot Bookworm]

In that situation, I'd go ahead and TTC too. :hug2

[Llee]

:hug That's a lot to take in.

[ThirstyTurtle]

:pray4

[dakotablue]

Praying for you.

I'm glad you have been able to clearly decided. A note about weaning, you may just have to cut night or a few day. For many women (not all) cutting back and replacing a few feeding with food brings back fertility. It did with both my boys (pumpkin started solids way before Lovebug because Lovebugs allergies were so much more.

:hug2 I'm so glad you seem at peace with all this.