staceylayne
03-23-2012, 08:32 PM
My sweet daughter has big, BIG reactions to things. She's three...so age is certainly some of it. But some of it is just her. Since she was tiny DH and I have joked that she "lives life at full volume". She's just really, really enthusiastic (and loud) about pretty much everything...good or bad. So the same shriek that could mean her arm has been chopped off is also used just before she exclaims, "Mommy! *You* are wearing shoes! And *I* am wearing shoes! We both wear shoes! We match!!" :cheer
We laugh, and also sometimes roll our eyes a bit, at her huge swings of emotion. Out front the other day I was chatting with a neighbor when she flung herself at my feet, moaning and wailing about her injured finger when, before I could offer sympathy, she stopped mid-wail, pointed at the sky and said brightly, "hey look!" :woohoo "I see the moon!". Neighbor and I were both :hunh Her passion is precious, and such a huge part of the girl I love, but it can be exhausting at times.
I know that a lot of sensitive people have had their feelings overlooked, dismissed or even belittled and mocked by others claiming they are being overly dramatic. I do *not* want to do this to my daughter. I'm curious if every instance of what we might perceive as "dramatic" reactions are due to really big feelings...or if some kids (or people) really just have big reactions even when their *feelings* aren't particularly huge. :shrug I definitely try to reflect and validate her feelings (when I can figure out if her shriek is from excitement or despair before she's moved on to another feeling). I do not want to dampen her spirit, however, I wonder if it's okay to suggest she tone it down sometimes.
I know some people have very reserved reactions despite big, big emotions inside. Is the opposite possible? :think I feel like I'm talking in circles here, so I'll stop my rambling. Anyone have thoughts, experience (as mother to a big reactor or as a sensitive/"dramatic" child) or insight?
We laugh, and also sometimes roll our eyes a bit, at her huge swings of emotion. Out front the other day I was chatting with a neighbor when she flung herself at my feet, moaning and wailing about her injured finger when, before I could offer sympathy, she stopped mid-wail, pointed at the sky and said brightly, "hey look!" :woohoo "I see the moon!". Neighbor and I were both :hunh Her passion is precious, and such a huge part of the girl I love, but it can be exhausting at times.
I know that a lot of sensitive people have had their feelings overlooked, dismissed or even belittled and mocked by others claiming they are being overly dramatic. I do *not* want to do this to my daughter. I'm curious if every instance of what we might perceive as "dramatic" reactions are due to really big feelings...or if some kids (or people) really just have big reactions even when their *feelings* aren't particularly huge. :shrug I definitely try to reflect and validate her feelings (when I can figure out if her shriek is from excitement or despair before she's moved on to another feeling). I do not want to dampen her spirit, however, I wonder if it's okay to suggest she tone it down sometimes.
I know some people have very reserved reactions despite big, big emotions inside. Is the opposite possible? :think I feel like I'm talking in circles here, so I'll stop my rambling. Anyone have thoughts, experience (as mother to a big reactor or as a sensitive/"dramatic" child) or insight?