justbreathe
02-29-2012, 08:51 AM
A while back, there was a thread on here where a mama was talking about being in the church nursery and another mom was their with their crying baby. The other mom seemed to not notice or respond to her baby's cries and the GCM was very disturbed by this. Someone in the thread pointed out that it's possible that the baby was colicky and the mom was "ignoring" the crying as a coping mechanism. For some reason that thread keeps popping in my head lately.
My toddler just cries so much. HOURS a day. If I hold him constantly (he's 30+ lbs and I'm not strong enough to wear him without pain for long), nurse him about every hour, and give him nonstop one-on-one attention, I can get the daytime crying down to around an hour a day - nighttime is a whole other can of crazy. :-/
I know that certain foods make it much worse (caffeine!) but I can't figure out if there is anything he or I am eating that's causing this. He has an amber necklace he wears all the time. He stopped taking a pacifier when he was 13 months old. He isn't very verbal so I think that makes it worse. It's much worse when I'm around than when he is with other people and he's been that way since a tiny infant.
I've noticed lately, when DH has been around or we've been in public, that I'm tuning out his cries. When we're at home, it just kind of becomes background noise. :blush Sometimes I have to cook meals, or read to the bigs, or do school with DS1, or do chores, or . . .whatever and I just *can't* deal with the crying. So, I just tune it out. When DH is here, it drives him nuts and I notice it more. It's really taking a toll on our family. Aren't "colicky" babies supposed to just "grow out of it"? :shifty
I feel like such a flop as an "AP" mom just ignoring my baby's cries but I genuinely don't know what else to do.
My toddler just cries so much. HOURS a day. If I hold him constantly (he's 30+ lbs and I'm not strong enough to wear him without pain for long), nurse him about every hour, and give him nonstop one-on-one attention, I can get the daytime crying down to around an hour a day - nighttime is a whole other can of crazy. :-/
I know that certain foods make it much worse (caffeine!) but I can't figure out if there is anything he or I am eating that's causing this. He has an amber necklace he wears all the time. He stopped taking a pacifier when he was 13 months old. He isn't very verbal so I think that makes it worse. It's much worse when I'm around than when he is with other people and he's been that way since a tiny infant.
I've noticed lately, when DH has been around or we've been in public, that I'm tuning out his cries. When we're at home, it just kind of becomes background noise. :blush Sometimes I have to cook meals, or read to the bigs, or do school with DS1, or do chores, or . . .whatever and I just *can't* deal with the crying. So, I just tune it out. When DH is here, it drives him nuts and I notice it more. It's really taking a toll on our family. Aren't "colicky" babies supposed to just "grow out of it"? :shifty
I feel like such a flop as an "AP" mom just ignoring my baby's cries but I genuinely don't know what else to do.