passionatemom
01-24-2012, 09:10 PM
I'm not sure of the best place to post this, so I'm just putting it here.
I'm exploring the idea that my 4yo has trouble with anxiety, and just how serious it is. I need to think on it more and figure out if that is really the root emotion that is giving him trouble, but at the moment I'm pretty sure.
I don't think it's anything we will need professional help with - but I don't want to disregard that too easily either.
Recently my concern about it is heightened b/c he occasionally has asthma-like symptoms that seem to be triggered by anxiety. The reason I'm being cautious in "diagnosing" him is that the situations that upset him most and sometimes lead to wheezing are ones that could cause a number of emotions, and in other kids they would cause anger, resentment, whatever else. But what I read in my kid is fear.
Several times I have posted on GCM about behavior stuff and I have been told that I'm trying too hard to avoid making him "mad." Every time I have read that and thought "Why do they think he's mad? I thought he was frightened?" So I'm finally affirming for myself that my observations are correct and he does really get frightened.
Also, his "tantrums" (at the ages when he had them) always seemed more like emotional meltdowns to me than anything he had any control over, but I thought that was more of an AP view vs. mainstream, rather than my kid being different.
First, can someone recommend a book please??? That's how I learn.
Also, talk to me about your kid with anxiety, what are the signs?
What should I do to further Mommy-diagnose it?
How do I know if we need a professional diagnosis?
I'm exploring the idea that my 4yo has trouble with anxiety, and just how serious it is. I need to think on it more and figure out if that is really the root emotion that is giving him trouble, but at the moment I'm pretty sure.
I don't think it's anything we will need professional help with - but I don't want to disregard that too easily either.
Recently my concern about it is heightened b/c he occasionally has asthma-like symptoms that seem to be triggered by anxiety. The reason I'm being cautious in "diagnosing" him is that the situations that upset him most and sometimes lead to wheezing are ones that could cause a number of emotions, and in other kids they would cause anger, resentment, whatever else. But what I read in my kid is fear.
Several times I have posted on GCM about behavior stuff and I have been told that I'm trying too hard to avoid making him "mad." Every time I have read that and thought "Why do they think he's mad? I thought he was frightened?" So I'm finally affirming for myself that my observations are correct and he does really get frightened.
Also, his "tantrums" (at the ages when he had them) always seemed more like emotional meltdowns to me than anything he had any control over, but I thought that was more of an AP view vs. mainstream, rather than my kid being different.
First, can someone recommend a book please??? That's how I learn.
Also, talk to me about your kid with anxiety, what are the signs?
What should I do to further Mommy-diagnose it?
How do I know if we need a professional diagnosis?