MercyInDisguise
12-25-2011, 07:22 PM
DH's grandma is 84, and very naive in a lot of ways, and deals with a lot of anxiety. She was abused as a child and young adult, and is a doormat in a lot of ways. She really responds to "authority," or anyone who speaks with authority, but apparently she really bucked that with her parenting! She has 5 sons and 1 daughter (DH's mom (who is the exact opposite of a doormat in every possible way :roll)).
At Thanksgiving, I was talking to her about C's sleep problems, and she asked me if anyone had told me that I needed to let him cry in his crib. I said yes, and braced myself for her to tell me what the "experts" had told her to do, and how well it worked. She said, "Oh, people were always telling me I held my babies too much, and telling me I had to let them cry themselves to sleep. It always seemed so silly to me and I always loved rocking and nursing them to sleep." :heart
Today MIL was telling her about how she was working in the nursery at church this AM and a 3 y/o boy was holding a wooden puzzle up over his head about to throw it. MIL told him not to throw it. He threw it anyway, and when she told him to pick it up, he started yelling, "No, no, no!" and throwing a fit. GMIL asked, "How did you discipline him?" MIL responded that she went to get his dad, and he took it from there (most likely a spanking or two or twenty, knowing the parents). GMIL said, "Oh, I didn't mean punishment, I meant discipline." :jawdrop She said, whenever her kids did something like that, if she told them to do something, she would make it happen by helping them walk over to it, pick it up, and do whatever she had told them to do!
She was an AP and GOYB mom before her time. :heart:heart:heart
At Thanksgiving, I was talking to her about C's sleep problems, and she asked me if anyone had told me that I needed to let him cry in his crib. I said yes, and braced myself for her to tell me what the "experts" had told her to do, and how well it worked. She said, "Oh, people were always telling me I held my babies too much, and telling me I had to let them cry themselves to sleep. It always seemed so silly to me and I always loved rocking and nursing them to sleep." :heart
Today MIL was telling her about how she was working in the nursery at church this AM and a 3 y/o boy was holding a wooden puzzle up over his head about to throw it. MIL told him not to throw it. He threw it anyway, and when she told him to pick it up, he started yelling, "No, no, no!" and throwing a fit. GMIL asked, "How did you discipline him?" MIL responded that she went to get his dad, and he took it from there (most likely a spanking or two or twenty, knowing the parents). GMIL said, "Oh, I didn't mean punishment, I meant discipline." :jawdrop She said, whenever her kids did something like that, if she told them to do something, she would make it happen by helping them walk over to it, pick it up, and do whatever she had told them to do!
She was an AP and GOYB mom before her time. :heart:heart:heart