Mum2Es
09-08-2011, 08:19 PM
I can't stand it! :banghead
Princess is 6. She's a fairly gentle natured kid, with a tendency to attempt to parent her younger sister (often in sweet ways like trying to comfort after an injury or help with toileting; sometimes in bossy, dictatorial ways.) Chicken is 3. She is fairly intense and very attached to me, unwilling to take any sort of direction or care from her Dad, Grandma, aunties, etc, and certainly not from her sister.
They fight ALL.THE.TIME lately. I can't stand it, it really pushes my buttons. Princess will correct Chicken on something, Chicken will contradict her, Princess will insist, Chicken will amp it up, then Princess will SCREAM at Chicken and then Chicken will explode into a massive feral meltdown including screaming and hitting. Princess often pushes or slaps Chicken too in these situations. :(
I try to intervene al la Siblings Without Rivalry before the bickering amps up, but it all happens in about 3 seconds and I often don't get there in time.
Then I lose my temper, and scream at them not to scream at each other :blush and in the last couple of days I've even lost my cool enough to slap Princess on two occasions. :bheart Then I beat myself up for setting such a bad example; how can I expect them to handle situations calmly and rationally if I lose my temper and yell and hit? :( Then I apologise and soothe hurt feelings and comfort them both.
It's an oft repeated cycle over the last couple of weeks.
Can you help me make it stop? Please?
Princess is 6. She's a fairly gentle natured kid, with a tendency to attempt to parent her younger sister (often in sweet ways like trying to comfort after an injury or help with toileting; sometimes in bossy, dictatorial ways.) Chicken is 3. She is fairly intense and very attached to me, unwilling to take any sort of direction or care from her Dad, Grandma, aunties, etc, and certainly not from her sister.
They fight ALL.THE.TIME lately. I can't stand it, it really pushes my buttons. Princess will correct Chicken on something, Chicken will contradict her, Princess will insist, Chicken will amp it up, then Princess will SCREAM at Chicken and then Chicken will explode into a massive feral meltdown including screaming and hitting. Princess often pushes or slaps Chicken too in these situations. :(
I try to intervene al la Siblings Without Rivalry before the bickering amps up, but it all happens in about 3 seconds and I often don't get there in time.
Then I lose my temper, and scream at them not to scream at each other :blush and in the last couple of days I've even lost my cool enough to slap Princess on two occasions. :bheart Then I beat myself up for setting such a bad example; how can I expect them to handle situations calmly and rationally if I lose my temper and yell and hit? :( Then I apologise and soothe hurt feelings and comfort them both.
It's an oft repeated cycle over the last couple of weeks.
Can you help me make it stop? Please?