mommy2abigail
04-12-2010, 05:33 AM
Ok, so dd2 (2 years old) is NOT about to let me drop her off anywhere. I really truly understand that, and with dd1, I didn't until she was 3 and she went in totally fine. However, with dh traveling a lot and working long hours, *I* really need a break. I have tried a few times at our church nursery (our church is very small, and very gentle-minded) and I barely got out the door before she went ballistic. :-/
I signed up at the Y because they have a great reputation for their kids center, and I was super impressed when we went in to tour. The area is huge, there is a lot to do, they had 7 people working and except for the two that were greeting the kids, all the others were on the floor, actively playing with the kids. My good (AP) friend takes her kids there and she loves it, and I trust her opinion too. They have reassured me that they will get me immediately if she cries, ect.
SO. How do I even begin??? When we walk in, she clings to my neck and starts crying. I don't know why, since I have NEVER left her against her wishes, and ALWAYS (well, it was only 2x) come back immediately. SHe acts like I've left her to be fed to the wolves. :-/ Now, I am totally willing to be patient and take as long as she needs to help her feel comfortable, but I am not sure how to start? Should I just walk in, leave her all cheery-voiced and then walk out? Do I come back immediately (because she WILL start crying?) Do I wait a minute? Gradually extend the time I am out? OR, do I go in with her, stay and play for a while, do this every day for a week or so, and not leave, and then start leaving? I'm worried that if I stay in there, she will expect me to always stay?
I swear I feel like such an idiot about all of this! I used to work at MDO, daycares, and I was a teacher for littles, and it was so obvious then! My advice was always to make drop off short and sweet, and that the child would cry but would get over it in 5 minutes. I would call the parent back if it went on longer, but I honestly don't ever recall having to do that. However, I know my kid and I know she will not stop in 5 minutes. I don't want this to be traumatic for her, I want her to like going and to have fun and enjoy it. HELP!!!
I signed up at the Y because they have a great reputation for their kids center, and I was super impressed when we went in to tour. The area is huge, there is a lot to do, they had 7 people working and except for the two that were greeting the kids, all the others were on the floor, actively playing with the kids. My good (AP) friend takes her kids there and she loves it, and I trust her opinion too. They have reassured me that they will get me immediately if she cries, ect.
SO. How do I even begin??? When we walk in, she clings to my neck and starts crying. I don't know why, since I have NEVER left her against her wishes, and ALWAYS (well, it was only 2x) come back immediately. SHe acts like I've left her to be fed to the wolves. :-/ Now, I am totally willing to be patient and take as long as she needs to help her feel comfortable, but I am not sure how to start? Should I just walk in, leave her all cheery-voiced and then walk out? Do I come back immediately (because she WILL start crying?) Do I wait a minute? Gradually extend the time I am out? OR, do I go in with her, stay and play for a while, do this every day for a week or so, and not leave, and then start leaving? I'm worried that if I stay in there, she will expect me to always stay?
I swear I feel like such an idiot about all of this! I used to work at MDO, daycares, and I was a teacher for littles, and it was so obvious then! My advice was always to make drop off short and sweet, and that the child would cry but would get over it in 5 minutes. I would call the parent back if it went on longer, but I honestly don't ever recall having to do that. However, I know my kid and I know she will not stop in 5 minutes. I don't want this to be traumatic for her, I want her to like going and to have fun and enjoy it. HELP!!!