ValiantJoy07
01-15-2010, 09:40 AM
We go to a very small church (30ish people). The women at our church have a winter Bible Study every year. Last year we met every Saturday for 11 weeks. I went every week on top of working evenings and weekends, being pregnant and having/nursing a 1 year old. That winter/spring session nearly killed me.
My pastors wife just called me make sure I knew about the winter study and wanted to know if she should get a book for me. I haven't been making it to church much since dd2 was born (I've been about 5 times in 5 months:-/). Sunday morning comes and any opportunity to be home with just one child is such a relief and sanity saver. It's I guess not a very "spiritual" sanity saver. But it's been getting me through. RJ (who goes to chruch with Daddy when I stay home) is just some thing else right now. And a relief from the constant talking, needing, messes, clinging, every thing-ing means so much right now. The last thing I want to do is go to church and pace the entire time with a fussy baby who is missing her morning nap and won't nurse (go to sleep) because she's too curious about being in a new place.
I didn't know what to tell M. :shifty I mean essentially I told her I couldn't commit to coming to the meetings. But it's more than that. We simply don't have an extra $20 at the moment for the study guide (not to mention the gas to get to meetings). I know that's pathetic but money is so tight right now. I do get $20 spending money every week, but that really is just a part of the budget that lets me feel like I have room to have fun (when really I don't :O). It goes to things we need, or gets moved to short term savings (more going to needs lately read car troubles). This weeks money went towards Gatorade, crackers and disposable diapers so I could have a chance to recoup from this awful stomach flu.
And I don't feel like spending it on a study guide for a study I don't think I'll get to go to. And if I DO get to go to, I'll have to stand pacing with a 5mos old who is missing some of her morning nap.:no She's still nursing every 2 hours or so- I mean she can go 3 or 4 hours but I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving her for that long.
This is such a short season of my life. I am learning and growing so much in so many ways- ways that might not be very "spiritual" but I can't say how much God teaching me. I hoenstly feel like I'm on overload He'd doing so much. :praise But it isn't in the "lets sit down and study the bible" kind of way. It's in the trenches "Lord get me through this hour" kind of ways (especially as we've been sick, potty training, and dd2 is nursing like crrrazy/cutting teeth).
Growth doesn't just happen one way right? I think of that song I learned in sunday school as a kid "read your bible pray every day and you'll grow grow grow..." it has truth to it. But 'read your bible pray every day" feels so much like going through the motions to me. :blush
But growth is going to look different at different points of your life, right? I AM trying to stay in the word, but right now "staying in the word" means watching a sermon I recorded while I nurse AJ or rebound (sneak in some cardio on dd's tramopline) or reading a Psalms in a short quiet time. Or just saying a memory verse over and over and over again while taking deep breaths so I don't kill some one :bag (just saying).
Last years Bible study was really good, I'm glad I did it, kind of. But I've also learned ( I think) my limits. And also that God can use little tiny bits and pieces of day to day life to move just as powerfully as a weekly Bible Study that is advertised to shake your world.
Right? Or am I trying to make excuses for myself? :scratch
Bottom line I feel that my family needs me right now. I just don't want the ladies at church to feel alienated- feeling kind of alone in this situation...I'm the only AP SAHM at our church right now.
My pastors wife just called me make sure I knew about the winter study and wanted to know if she should get a book for me. I haven't been making it to church much since dd2 was born (I've been about 5 times in 5 months:-/). Sunday morning comes and any opportunity to be home with just one child is such a relief and sanity saver. It's I guess not a very "spiritual" sanity saver. But it's been getting me through. RJ (who goes to chruch with Daddy when I stay home) is just some thing else right now. And a relief from the constant talking, needing, messes, clinging, every thing-ing means so much right now. The last thing I want to do is go to church and pace the entire time with a fussy baby who is missing her morning nap and won't nurse (go to sleep) because she's too curious about being in a new place.
I didn't know what to tell M. :shifty I mean essentially I told her I couldn't commit to coming to the meetings. But it's more than that. We simply don't have an extra $20 at the moment for the study guide (not to mention the gas to get to meetings). I know that's pathetic but money is so tight right now. I do get $20 spending money every week, but that really is just a part of the budget that lets me feel like I have room to have fun (when really I don't :O). It goes to things we need, or gets moved to short term savings (more going to needs lately read car troubles). This weeks money went towards Gatorade, crackers and disposable diapers so I could have a chance to recoup from this awful stomach flu.
And I don't feel like spending it on a study guide for a study I don't think I'll get to go to. And if I DO get to go to, I'll have to stand pacing with a 5mos old who is missing some of her morning nap.:no She's still nursing every 2 hours or so- I mean she can go 3 or 4 hours but I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving her for that long.
This is such a short season of my life. I am learning and growing so much in so many ways- ways that might not be very "spiritual" but I can't say how much God teaching me. I hoenstly feel like I'm on overload He'd doing so much. :praise But it isn't in the "lets sit down and study the bible" kind of way. It's in the trenches "Lord get me through this hour" kind of ways (especially as we've been sick, potty training, and dd2 is nursing like crrrazy/cutting teeth).
Growth doesn't just happen one way right? I think of that song I learned in sunday school as a kid "read your bible pray every day and you'll grow grow grow..." it has truth to it. But 'read your bible pray every day" feels so much like going through the motions to me. :blush
But growth is going to look different at different points of your life, right? I AM trying to stay in the word, but right now "staying in the word" means watching a sermon I recorded while I nurse AJ or rebound (sneak in some cardio on dd's tramopline) or reading a Psalms in a short quiet time. Or just saying a memory verse over and over and over again while taking deep breaths so I don't kill some one :bag (just saying).
Last years Bible study was really good, I'm glad I did it, kind of. But I've also learned ( I think) my limits. And also that God can use little tiny bits and pieces of day to day life to move just as powerfully as a weekly Bible Study that is advertised to shake your world.
Right? Or am I trying to make excuses for myself? :scratch
Bottom line I feel that my family needs me right now. I just don't want the ladies at church to feel alienated- feeling kind of alone in this situation...I'm the only AP SAHM at our church right now.