I hereby do swear...

[NewLeaf]

to be a good MIL.

I won't be manipulative.

I will support and love my children and their spouses in their decisions, even when I don't necessarily agree with them.

I will mind my own business.

I will won't guilt them into behaving a certain way.

I won't tally up time spent with us vs. time spent with their in laws.

I will not give them unsolicited advice or books about sex. :blush

I won't cause them added stress regarding holiday planning. :-/

I want to take some of my experiences with my IL's and learn from them so I can be a blessing to my kids and their spouses in their marriages. I can't imagine a greater gift for a grown child. :heart And how burdensome the opposite can be. :(

(I also wish all other in-laws would be of the same mindset. :sigh)

[NovelMama]

A.MEN.

[mamaKristin]

I think any of us who might think that way should print and frame that. :yes

[allisonintx]

I cant promise to never pass along a book about sex :shifty but the rest.....

[joystrength]

Yeah, Allison, that was my "ummmmm, maybe not" point, too!

My mom gave us some books. Just handed the bag from the Christian bookstore to me and said, "I thought you guys might like these," when we were days away from the wedding. I DID appreciate it, (AND I READ THEM!!!!), but I was a tad embarrassed!! :P~:P~

Great post, Newleaf!!

[Abibigail]

:clap

[NewLeaf]

I cant promise to never pass along a book about sex :shifty but the rest.....

Perhaps I should have said "explicit books about sex written by former soap stars with excerpts of written porn". :bag

Also, I could see giving my child some good resources on sex in marriage but not my daughter in law whom I barely know.

[amyhntr2]

What a wonderful list! I might just tuck this away and continue to add to it as life experiences dictate lol Sad to say mine will be more of how I won't repeat my parents craziness...I have the best in-laws in the world! :heart

[Momys]

What a lovely thread!!!! I want to print it and frame it (since I have 7 sons, so DILs are a given LOL).

I always wonder how I will deal with it if one of my sons and his wife had to decide to spank or their discipline methods were punitive?

[newday]

to be a good MIL.


I will not give them unsolicited advice or books about sex. :blush


:jawdrop


how to ruin anyone's sex life - insert thought about a mother or mil. honestly, can you think of a bigger turn off?

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i am adding this: my mil is a friend and i actually like her :shifty we have talked about sex stuff to some degree, but that is because of the relationship we have. it is not any of the other things you mentioned.
if your mil was already a friend to you it would probably not be a big deal -- kwim?

[NewLeaf]

i am adding this: my mil is a friend and i actually like her :shifty we have talked about sex stuff to some degree, but that is because of the relationship we have. it is not any of the other things you mentioned.
if your mil was already a friend to you it would probably not be a big deal -- kwim?

No, I absolutely agree. :yes My mother and I can talk about sex because I have a close relationship with her- we know what is inappropriate and what would make the other uncomfortable. I do not have that with MIL. I don't want to hear "Well, FIL has always liked..." :jawdrop:blush It's also weird to me that she tries to talk to me about it but wouldn't never say anything to dh.

Momys- I've always wondered that too but I think that if I have a strong respectful relationship with my kids and hopefully their spouses that my example will be a resource for them. I think when we love, respect and feel close to our mothers we naturally ask for their help and input. If we differ in opinion in many ways I'll just pray and leave that to God, however hard that might be. :heart