thrillofhope
08-06-2009, 07:16 PM
Sorry this is a long story but I really need to brag on myself a little. :)
Today I was waiting for my class to start and we were all talking (it's all women). There's only one other mom in the class (her baby is one). Someone was saying she was not a morning person and I said "Well, I wasn't a morning person til Doodlebug was born." The other mom nodded and rolled her eyes and I said, "Oh no, not because she cries or anything. She's so sweet and she pets my arm and coos to wake me up." :dohNow normally I would not bring up cosleeping with people I'm not close with. I wasn't thinking I guess, because to me it's so natural that I forget other people don't sleep with their babies too. :shrug3
So someone said, "Where does she sleep?" And I knew what I had gotten myself into. I said, "In bed with me." And the other mom said, "Oh NO honey! (with this snooty attitude) That is a BAD habit that you need to break right now." And I said, "No. I'm a cosleeping attachment parent. I've researched it and decided." So the girl keeps berating me about it and telling everyone else that her son is one and sleeps in his own room and how he sleeps through thunderstorms and everything. It made me sad because her son is probably scared of the storms but what good would it do to cry? :( She just kept going and going about my sex life and how Doodlebug would be in my bed forever if I didn't kick her out now... blah blah blah. And then the TEACHER chimed in and said, "I agree with her." Grr... it's not her job to express her opinion! This is the same teacher who said, "Oh yeah, I don't remember you because you just want to stay home and make babies.":mad I just said, "Well, we have decided that the benefits outweigh the risks." And she looked at me just like this: :hunh
So I sat in class crying and getting madder and madder. My husband keeps telling me I need to stand up for myself more and so I decided I would. After class I waited for the girl and told her, "You really hurt my feelings before class. I don't think that it's fair for you to judge my parenting like that. You looked at me like I was crazy for cosleeping, but the fact is, I think that it's crazy to have your child sleeping in his own room so young. So please don't judge other parents because what works for your family is not what works for mine."
Anyway, I'm really proud of myself because I stood up for myself and Doodlebug with dignity and self-respect, without just keeping it to myself or spouting off and castigating her. Yay me! Now if only I could say something to the teacher...
Today I was waiting for my class to start and we were all talking (it's all women). There's only one other mom in the class (her baby is one). Someone was saying she was not a morning person and I said "Well, I wasn't a morning person til Doodlebug was born." The other mom nodded and rolled her eyes and I said, "Oh no, not because she cries or anything. She's so sweet and she pets my arm and coos to wake me up." :dohNow normally I would not bring up cosleeping with people I'm not close with. I wasn't thinking I guess, because to me it's so natural that I forget other people don't sleep with their babies too. :shrug3
So someone said, "Where does she sleep?" And I knew what I had gotten myself into. I said, "In bed with me." And the other mom said, "Oh NO honey! (with this snooty attitude) That is a BAD habit that you need to break right now." And I said, "No. I'm a cosleeping attachment parent. I've researched it and decided." So the girl keeps berating me about it and telling everyone else that her son is one and sleeps in his own room and how he sleeps through thunderstorms and everything. It made me sad because her son is probably scared of the storms but what good would it do to cry? :( She just kept going and going about my sex life and how Doodlebug would be in my bed forever if I didn't kick her out now... blah blah blah. And then the TEACHER chimed in and said, "I agree with her." Grr... it's not her job to express her opinion! This is the same teacher who said, "Oh yeah, I don't remember you because you just want to stay home and make babies.":mad I just said, "Well, we have decided that the benefits outweigh the risks." And she looked at me just like this: :hunh
So I sat in class crying and getting madder and madder. My husband keeps telling me I need to stand up for myself more and so I decided I would. After class I waited for the girl and told her, "You really hurt my feelings before class. I don't think that it's fair for you to judge my parenting like that. You looked at me like I was crazy for cosleeping, but the fact is, I think that it's crazy to have your child sleeping in his own room so young. So please don't judge other parents because what works for your family is not what works for mine."
Anyway, I'm really proud of myself because I stood up for myself and Doodlebug with dignity and self-respect, without just keeping it to myself or spouting off and castigating her. Yay me! Now if only I could say something to the teacher...