CJ
03-02-2009, 12:40 PM
As you can see from my signature, I am an experienced mom. I have tried everything I can think of that I am comfortable with to help my 5-month old sleep more consistently. Each of my babies has co-slept more than the previous one. I am open to pretty much exclusive co-sleeping with this one if I thought it would help us all get more sleep. Here's what I've observed:
1. He seems to wake at that 45min sleep cycle during naps. If I get there (or am laying next to him) and can gently coax him back to sleep, sometimes I am successful, sometimes not. If he only gets a 45min nap, he is fussy and cranky and will HAVE to go back down for a nap in an hour or so. So I'm sure that 45 minutes is not enough for him.
2. He is my first baby not to nurse completely to sleep. Instead, I nurse him, he finishes, I rock and/or pat him with his pacifier until he's asleep or nearly asleep and then I transfer him to my bed or the crib (used to sleep in the bassinet).
3. He is my first baby to use a pacifier. He seemed a bit "reflux-y" from the get go. One of the helpful things I read was that sucking a pacifier can help that because babies who produce and swallow more saliva (which is alkaline) help neutralize the stomach acid.
4. At night I do the same routine, usually after a calm bath. I put him down in his crib to start and often have to "coax" him back to sleep once or twice. When he's ready to nurse I either sit up and do it, putting him back in the crib again, or if I'm ready for bed I just bring him in bed with me.
5. I have to be careful about how much I nurse laying down because my back hurts when I do too much of it. I am happy to sit up a couple times a night to nurse and then go back to bed with him. Except that . . .
6. He has a hard time resettling back to sleep after night wakings. Sometimes he will fuss and squirm until he is wide awake and then there is no getting him back to sleep for an hour or more. Last night he woke up after 2 hours of sleep, I nursed/rocked, replaced him, he woke right up, DH tried to rock him but he wouldn't settle. So we started over again an hour or so later. The rest of the night was pretty restless with him waking every hour or so and then he woke up for the morning before 6 am. This was not atypical.
7. DH and I have both waken to him cooing and chattering in bed with us at 3 am or so--thinking it's time to play. We try to ignore that and when he starts to fuss I will nurse him (hopefully back to sleep). But that robbed us of precious sleep too many times.
Any advice? ideas? questions? As you can imagine, with other kids, our lives can be chaotic during the day, but I have gone out of my way (and often at the expense of the other kids) to make life as calm and predictable for the baby as possible--it doesn't seem to matter! And I feel so bad because when I am sleep deprived, I am terribly grouchy with the other kids. I have never considered letting one of my babies cry it out and (fortunately) wouldn't even know how to begin that, but at 3 am, I confess, lately the thought has crossed my mind!
I hold him and wear him A LOT during the day.
1. He seems to wake at that 45min sleep cycle during naps. If I get there (or am laying next to him) and can gently coax him back to sleep, sometimes I am successful, sometimes not. If he only gets a 45min nap, he is fussy and cranky and will HAVE to go back down for a nap in an hour or so. So I'm sure that 45 minutes is not enough for him.
2. He is my first baby not to nurse completely to sleep. Instead, I nurse him, he finishes, I rock and/or pat him with his pacifier until he's asleep or nearly asleep and then I transfer him to my bed or the crib (used to sleep in the bassinet).
3. He is my first baby to use a pacifier. He seemed a bit "reflux-y" from the get go. One of the helpful things I read was that sucking a pacifier can help that because babies who produce and swallow more saliva (which is alkaline) help neutralize the stomach acid.
4. At night I do the same routine, usually after a calm bath. I put him down in his crib to start and often have to "coax" him back to sleep once or twice. When he's ready to nurse I either sit up and do it, putting him back in the crib again, or if I'm ready for bed I just bring him in bed with me.
5. I have to be careful about how much I nurse laying down because my back hurts when I do too much of it. I am happy to sit up a couple times a night to nurse and then go back to bed with him. Except that . . .
6. He has a hard time resettling back to sleep after night wakings. Sometimes he will fuss and squirm until he is wide awake and then there is no getting him back to sleep for an hour or more. Last night he woke up after 2 hours of sleep, I nursed/rocked, replaced him, he woke right up, DH tried to rock him but he wouldn't settle. So we started over again an hour or so later. The rest of the night was pretty restless with him waking every hour or so and then he woke up for the morning before 6 am. This was not atypical.
7. DH and I have both waken to him cooing and chattering in bed with us at 3 am or so--thinking it's time to play. We try to ignore that and when he starts to fuss I will nurse him (hopefully back to sleep). But that robbed us of precious sleep too many times.
Any advice? ideas? questions? As you can imagine, with other kids, our lives can be chaotic during the day, but I have gone out of my way (and often at the expense of the other kids) to make life as calm and predictable for the baby as possible--it doesn't seem to matter! And I feel so bad because when I am sleep deprived, I am terribly grouchy with the other kids. I have never considered letting one of my babies cry it out and (fortunately) wouldn't even know how to begin that, but at 3 am, I confess, lately the thought has crossed my mind!
I hold him and wear him A LOT during the day.