SansSouci
08-20-2007, 12:43 AM
My 21 m/o does not go down to sleep well at all. I've FINALLY learned that he only needs 10 hours of sleep at night - b/c no matter what time he falls asleep, he's up 10 hours later. And I'm NOT a morning person, so I think a 9pm bedtime works okay (still gives DH and I a bit of time together, but also doesn't make me get up sooooo early in the morning - though 7am is still early in my book, but I'm telling myself this is only temporary).
I think one of the key reasons why ds doesn't go to sleep very well is a lack of routine. Many months ago, I resorted to driving him tos leep (out of desperation to find SOME way to get this kiddo to sleep at night). I think we've been doing this for almost a year. While I take DS for a drive, DH takes DD (4 y/o) and does a bedtime routine with her (get in pjs, brush teeth, read books, fall asleep - yes, he falls asleep in her room, and I wake him up to come to bed eventually in our room).
When I've tried reading DS books in bed, he just thinks it's playtime... and he's not capable of letting me read to him (he wants to flip-flip-flip, new book, flip, new book, flip-flip-flip, etc.). It's really frustrating. When I try to lay with him on his bed, he gets mad b/c he knows what I'm trying to do (get him to know it's bedtime, help him relax, help him fall asleep), and he flips out and screams and tries to leave the room.
When we watch a calming nighttime show on TV, he just wants to play with toys.
He's NOT a snuggler (never has been), so he does not enjoy sitting on my lap for relaxing or calming down.
So... I'm looking for suggestions on a bedtime routine. I'm wondering if I just need to MAKE a bedtime routine happen. Ugh. I feel like I've tried everything, but at the same time I feel like I haven't tried enough. I'm just so tired of this lousy game of trying to get him to go to sleep. If I don't drive him to sleep, it takes HOURS to get him to sleep at home. I'm just so tired of it. Please help! :heart
I think one of the key reasons why ds doesn't go to sleep very well is a lack of routine. Many months ago, I resorted to driving him tos leep (out of desperation to find SOME way to get this kiddo to sleep at night). I think we've been doing this for almost a year. While I take DS for a drive, DH takes DD (4 y/o) and does a bedtime routine with her (get in pjs, brush teeth, read books, fall asleep - yes, he falls asleep in her room, and I wake him up to come to bed eventually in our room).
When I've tried reading DS books in bed, he just thinks it's playtime... and he's not capable of letting me read to him (he wants to flip-flip-flip, new book, flip, new book, flip-flip-flip, etc.). It's really frustrating. When I try to lay with him on his bed, he gets mad b/c he knows what I'm trying to do (get him to know it's bedtime, help him relax, help him fall asleep), and he flips out and screams and tries to leave the room.
When we watch a calming nighttime show on TV, he just wants to play with toys.
He's NOT a snuggler (never has been), so he does not enjoy sitting on my lap for relaxing or calming down.
So... I'm looking for suggestions on a bedtime routine. I'm wondering if I just need to MAKE a bedtime routine happen. Ugh. I feel like I've tried everything, but at the same time I feel like I haven't tried enough. I'm just so tired of this lousy game of trying to get him to go to sleep. If I don't drive him to sleep, it takes HOURS to get him to sleep at home. I'm just so tired of it. Please help! :heart