Rbonmom
07-10-2007, 02:24 PM
My friend is having major sleep issues with her little 11mo ds. Basically she either rocks or nurses him to sleep, but then he will only stay sleeping for about 30-45min and then he wakes again. It goes on like that for most of the night. She's just at her wits end. Her ds won't let her dh put him down without becoming very upset so she's trying to do it all on her own. She's feeling like resorting to CIO because nothing is working.
They've done the whole "NCSS" plan and that helped to set up a routine, but isn't solving the problem of keeping him asleep for the night :/ He does take two naps, one morning and one in the afternoon for about 1.5hrs, but it's hard to get him down for those too.
I recommended the "pick up/put down" method from the Baby Whisperer because that's what I had to resort to with ds around the same age. Basically you lay the baby in the crib and then when they stand up and fuss, you pick them up and comfort them and then lay them back down and pat their back until they either fall asleep or stand back up, and then you start over.
When I did it with ds, the first time it took about 45times of PU/PD until he finally fell asleep, but then each time it took less and less until I was able to just lay him down and rub his back for a few minutes until he fell asleep. Now with her little guy, it started out with about 45x the first time, but last night and this afternoon it took over 200 times :jawdrop Obviously she's totally frazzled and is at the end of her rope. Most of her friends are telling her to just CIO, but she doesn't want to.
What on earth do you think could be going on here? How can she get him to start sleeping for longer stretches and going to sleep faster? Any advice would be great at this point.
They've done the whole "NCSS" plan and that helped to set up a routine, but isn't solving the problem of keeping him asleep for the night :/ He does take two naps, one morning and one in the afternoon for about 1.5hrs, but it's hard to get him down for those too.
I recommended the "pick up/put down" method from the Baby Whisperer because that's what I had to resort to with ds around the same age. Basically you lay the baby in the crib and then when they stand up and fuss, you pick them up and comfort them and then lay them back down and pat their back until they either fall asleep or stand back up, and then you start over.
When I did it with ds, the first time it took about 45times of PU/PD until he finally fell asleep, but then each time it took less and less until I was able to just lay him down and rub his back for a few minutes until he fell asleep. Now with her little guy, it started out with about 45x the first time, but last night and this afternoon it took over 200 times :jawdrop Obviously she's totally frazzled and is at the end of her rope. Most of her friends are telling her to just CIO, but she doesn't want to.
What on earth do you think could be going on here? How can she get him to start sleeping for longer stretches and going to sleep faster? Any advice would be great at this point.