Can Dance
11-07-2006, 02:04 PM
Someone needs to help my befuddled self try to figure this one out in GBD language.
this is why it came up. DD1 woke up and wanted to eat. She asked for oatmeal, I said sure and went to prepare it for her. While I was making it she found a chocolate bar that had gotten pushed under the fridge and then pushed out from under the fridge. :doh so she wants it. I tell her no, you need to eat your oatmeal first and then you may have your chocolate bar. I leave the kitchen, she comes out and has climbed onto a chair and her mouth is full of her savoury treat. now I am ticked. I am annoyed with myself that I didn't put it up high enough but also annoyed with her for getting it. she literaly opens her mouth to show me her candy. *sigh*. of course my SIL is watching this whole thing. TBH, at this point we weren't exactly having the best day. I was frustrated with her, she was cranky with me, etc, etc. Well I took it out of her mouth. she freaked out. yada yada. I was trying REALLY hard to think of what to do, when I decided to cuddle with her. :phew disaster avoided. that was exactly what she needed, to reconnect with her mama, and what was I needed to quite frankly.
anyway, the point of this story. I started to wonder, because I chose not to punish her in this instance (I dont consider taking the candy away from her punishment, though maybe you do , I felt it was more of a consistency thing), when do children develop a concious that pushes them to "confess" or whatever? What is the GBD view of such a thing?
:popcorn
this is why it came up. DD1 woke up and wanted to eat. She asked for oatmeal, I said sure and went to prepare it for her. While I was making it she found a chocolate bar that had gotten pushed under the fridge and then pushed out from under the fridge. :doh so she wants it. I tell her no, you need to eat your oatmeal first and then you may have your chocolate bar. I leave the kitchen, she comes out and has climbed onto a chair and her mouth is full of her savoury treat. now I am ticked. I am annoyed with myself that I didn't put it up high enough but also annoyed with her for getting it. she literaly opens her mouth to show me her candy. *sigh*. of course my SIL is watching this whole thing. TBH, at this point we weren't exactly having the best day. I was frustrated with her, she was cranky with me, etc, etc. Well I took it out of her mouth. she freaked out. yada yada. I was trying REALLY hard to think of what to do, when I decided to cuddle with her. :phew disaster avoided. that was exactly what she needed, to reconnect with her mama, and what was I needed to quite frankly.
anyway, the point of this story. I started to wonder, because I chose not to punish her in this instance (I dont consider taking the candy away from her punishment, though maybe you do , I felt it was more of a consistency thing), when do children develop a concious that pushes them to "confess" or whatever? What is the GBD view of such a thing?
:popcorn