HomeWithMyBabies
10-09-2006, 04:50 AM
Really, what is the point of punishing kids in church?
I got done in the service and slipped out to get the boys, who both for some reason seemed happy to go to the nursery and cherub's church this morning. I was still annoyed by something the pastor said in his message (something about getting into heaven by the skin of your teeth or some garbage) when I got to the cherub's church room to get my 3 year old.
The teacher says goodbye, and I remind ds it's time to say bye. He refuses so we go to leave. Teacher says, "He's mad at me." Another little girl says, "Why is he mad at you?" Teacher tells me, "I told him he had to put his paper away or he'd be in time out. When I told him that he just looked at me like this -- {does her best snotty nosed brat face}."
I said, "We don't do time out, so he had no idea what you were talking about." and I left. On the way out I must've had two horns on my head because this was the look I got :hunh
First off, he's THREE right? Right? Argghhh. He's a huge train fan, and we just went yesterday to ride a steam train, and he wanted to carry the paper from the train ride around. He's still excited. Secondly, if you don't want him have his stupid paper out, take the stupid paper and put it somewhere if it's such a huge gigantic deal that the paper is out. REALLY.
Then the whole way home, ds is reciting things from this morning (which he tends to do when someone has a harsh tone with him, he rehashes it over and over) He's in the back seat saying, "DON'T put the sticker on the table! DON'T put it on the floor! No! Put the paper away *right now*! Stop it!"
I feel like I should call and ask the children's pastor, is it customary to put kids in time out in church? Do you have a discipline protocol for cherub's church or is it just up to whoever is teaching that day? I mean it was one minor incident and Dh and I talked about it, and how one time out from somebody at church compared to 18 years of gentle parenting (or at least the attempt at gentle parenting) won't destroy him but we just got him back to church again and we'd really like him to enjoy church NOW. Arrggh.
I got done in the service and slipped out to get the boys, who both for some reason seemed happy to go to the nursery and cherub's church this morning. I was still annoyed by something the pastor said in his message (something about getting into heaven by the skin of your teeth or some garbage) when I got to the cherub's church room to get my 3 year old.
The teacher says goodbye, and I remind ds it's time to say bye. He refuses so we go to leave. Teacher says, "He's mad at me." Another little girl says, "Why is he mad at you?" Teacher tells me, "I told him he had to put his paper away or he'd be in time out. When I told him that he just looked at me like this -- {does her best snotty nosed brat face}."
I said, "We don't do time out, so he had no idea what you were talking about." and I left. On the way out I must've had two horns on my head because this was the look I got :hunh
First off, he's THREE right? Right? Argghhh. He's a huge train fan, and we just went yesterday to ride a steam train, and he wanted to carry the paper from the train ride around. He's still excited. Secondly, if you don't want him have his stupid paper out, take the stupid paper and put it somewhere if it's such a huge gigantic deal that the paper is out. REALLY.
Then the whole way home, ds is reciting things from this morning (which he tends to do when someone has a harsh tone with him, he rehashes it over and over) He's in the back seat saying, "DON'T put the sticker on the table! DON'T put it on the floor! No! Put the paper away *right now*! Stop it!"
I feel like I should call and ask the children's pastor, is it customary to put kids in time out in church? Do you have a discipline protocol for cherub's church or is it just up to whoever is teaching that day? I mean it was one minor incident and Dh and I talked about it, and how one time out from somebody at church compared to 18 years of gentle parenting (or at least the attempt at gentle parenting) won't destroy him but we just got him back to church again and we'd really like him to enjoy church NOW. Arrggh.