hbmamma
09-30-2006, 04:49 AM
I want to help my friend. I've posted other things about her and that I'm really concerned about her whole life, but this is an issue that has really bothered me. I just don't know how to bring it up or what to say. Maybe someone has been in a similar situation and can share.
Anyway, S has a 1-yr DD (just turned one in Aug.), O, with her live-in BF. From outward appearances, she practices AP, breastfeed, and co-sleep. But she's far from being gentle. At their last visit, O was getting into the dog food dish. After repeated attempts to remove the child from the scene, S yelled, spanked the tush, and slapped O's hand. "SHE'S A BABY!?!?" rang through my head. I was horrified. It was just a natural curiosity about the dog food and wouldn't it have been easier to move the dish? (I had just returned to the house when this final "straw" happened).When things settled down, I asked S about it. She said, "Well O knows better..." :hunh :hunh :hunh I told her that O is still only one. And that she's pretty much going on impulses and curiosity. "Well, she flashes me that eye...she knows" S says.
She gets very angry with O, and I know that there are some other underlying issues there. I think that the novelty of having a baby has completely worn off and now her BF doesn't help out as much as he used to. She's depressed and has medication that she doesn't take on a regular basis. It just makes me sad to see this all with my best friend. :cry
Anyway, S has a 1-yr DD (just turned one in Aug.), O, with her live-in BF. From outward appearances, she practices AP, breastfeed, and co-sleep. But she's far from being gentle. At their last visit, O was getting into the dog food dish. After repeated attempts to remove the child from the scene, S yelled, spanked the tush, and slapped O's hand. "SHE'S A BABY!?!?" rang through my head. I was horrified. It was just a natural curiosity about the dog food and wouldn't it have been easier to move the dish? (I had just returned to the house when this final "straw" happened).When things settled down, I asked S about it. She said, "Well O knows better..." :hunh :hunh :hunh I told her that O is still only one. And that she's pretty much going on impulses and curiosity. "Well, she flashes me that eye...she knows" S says.
She gets very angry with O, and I know that there are some other underlying issues there. I think that the novelty of having a baby has completely worn off and now her BF doesn't help out as much as he used to. She's depressed and has medication that she doesn't take on a regular basis. It just makes me sad to see this all with my best friend. :cry