AttachedMamma
08-16-2006, 08:26 PM
I'm so tired of this woman. She is a grandma involved in the care of her grandson. He attends a "gifted" public school b/c he's very bright. My dd has been playing w/him often this summer (we just moved here) and his grandma is often in tow. 1st time it started off w/the questioning about why I'm hsing...next time it was about how DD is like her grandson and therefore needs to be around other kids all day (she said her grandson can't wait to go back to school and that summer break is torture for him...well, I think it's b/c she is a homebody and hardly takes him anywhere). Next time it was about how she's observed that dd is very bright and how I might want to test her...the next time it was commenting that dd is gifted and that I won't be able to give her all she needs. It almost cracked me up how she mentioned that dd is very bright...she behaved like she was giving me some new revelation...as if I don't even know my own child. :rolleyes
The funny thing is--her daughter hs'd her children until jr high, I believe.
The last time I was a bit pms'y and responded defensively... :O told her that our priorities are different than theirs...that knowledge/information isn't our highest priority in teaching our dd and it's not important to us if she knows all the state capitals (she brags about her grandson constantly).
The other thing is she is the epitome of the Pharisees. DD said "o my gosh" at the playground. This woman proceeds to comment on how her grandson knows not to say things like that b/c it is taking the Lord's name in vain and how they're doing a study on the ten commandments; also how nice he is b/c he didn't say anything to dd about what she said "he doesn't want to offend her." (but I guess it's ok for her to offend me and insult my dd?) This is way beyond behaving like a proud grandma--she constantly talks about how he's such a child of God...telling me about his quiet time and how he writes this and that, how he's composing music on his piano...and it's always in the context of comparing to my dd.
I have tried so hard w/this woman, but I can't stand her anymore. Life is difficult enough without someone bringing you down. I'm always bummed/stressed after spending any time with her. The boy is nice and I'd like for dd to continue playdates w/him...she really likes him too...but I don't want to be subjected to his grandmother.
Any advice?
cindi
The funny thing is--her daughter hs'd her children until jr high, I believe.
The last time I was a bit pms'y and responded defensively... :O told her that our priorities are different than theirs...that knowledge/information isn't our highest priority in teaching our dd and it's not important to us if she knows all the state capitals (she brags about her grandson constantly).
The other thing is she is the epitome of the Pharisees. DD said "o my gosh" at the playground. This woman proceeds to comment on how her grandson knows not to say things like that b/c it is taking the Lord's name in vain and how they're doing a study on the ten commandments; also how nice he is b/c he didn't say anything to dd about what she said "he doesn't want to offend her." (but I guess it's ok for her to offend me and insult my dd?) This is way beyond behaving like a proud grandma--she constantly talks about how he's such a child of God...telling me about his quiet time and how he writes this and that, how he's composing music on his piano...and it's always in the context of comparing to my dd.
I have tried so hard w/this woman, but I can't stand her anymore. Life is difficult enough without someone bringing you down. I'm always bummed/stressed after spending any time with her. The boy is nice and I'd like for dd to continue playdates w/him...she really likes him too...but I don't want to be subjected to his grandmother.
Any advice?
cindi