Cheyenne
06-16-2006, 11:54 AM
Okay, I don't have a lot of time to post this, so I will keep it short, and if it is too short and people need more info, then I will do my best to add as needed.
I am embarrassed to admit this, but I really need help.
I have realized that my kids have developed many bad habits due to my being overly tired, flaring from fibro and just being lax in parenting. I have the summer time to work with my kids on developing new and good habits and work on my own as well. They tend to drop things everywhere including clothes, toys, trash, etc. Our house is small with six people in here and minimal storage space, so it takes hardly any time at all for things to go from clean to thrashed. They have poor habits when it comes to attitudes, helping out, treating furniture correctly and not destroying it by climbing all over it. I had some of these down for awhile, but with the increase in kids and me feeling worse, many of the good habits declined and now I find myself needing to start over. However trying to get four kids to start doing better when I am struggling myself seems rather impossible. I know it isn't, but I could sure use some advice, and encouragment. We have no good routine and struggle to stick with a routine. My kids are also really off on bedtime and are going to sleep way too late. I am trying to get them back to their normal bedtime of 8:30, but they are struggling to go to sleep and they wind each other up too easily and then they are overstimulated. My husband is not much help in the evening because of needing to go to bed early for work, so I am solo in the evenings. They don't listen to me and tend to get whatever they want whenever they want and when I tell them no, they ignore me completely. Sometimes they are all in different areas, so trying to make sure all 4 are out of trouble and doing as they should makes my head spin. I do try to make what I say happen, but sometimes I am sooooooooo tired and sleep deprived that I am struggling. They have gotten into bad habits of bei ng unwilling to help out and 5 stepping all of them is rather complicated. HELP!!
I am embarrassed to admit this, but I really need help.
I have realized that my kids have developed many bad habits due to my being overly tired, flaring from fibro and just being lax in parenting. I have the summer time to work with my kids on developing new and good habits and work on my own as well. They tend to drop things everywhere including clothes, toys, trash, etc. Our house is small with six people in here and minimal storage space, so it takes hardly any time at all for things to go from clean to thrashed. They have poor habits when it comes to attitudes, helping out, treating furniture correctly and not destroying it by climbing all over it. I had some of these down for awhile, but with the increase in kids and me feeling worse, many of the good habits declined and now I find myself needing to start over. However trying to get four kids to start doing better when I am struggling myself seems rather impossible. I know it isn't, but I could sure use some advice, and encouragment. We have no good routine and struggle to stick with a routine. My kids are also really off on bedtime and are going to sleep way too late. I am trying to get them back to their normal bedtime of 8:30, but they are struggling to go to sleep and they wind each other up too easily and then they are overstimulated. My husband is not much help in the evening because of needing to go to bed early for work, so I am solo in the evenings. They don't listen to me and tend to get whatever they want whenever they want and when I tell them no, they ignore me completely. Sometimes they are all in different areas, so trying to make sure all 4 are out of trouble and doing as they should makes my head spin. I do try to make what I say happen, but sometimes I am sooooooooo tired and sleep deprived that I am struggling. They have gotten into bad habits of bei ng unwilling to help out and 5 stepping all of them is rather complicated. HELP!!