Really people ??

J3K · 07-20-2012, 09:45 PM

There is a fb meme that is driving me batty.

A little girl is holding a sign that says "I lied to my Dad" in a public parking lot with him looking on. The general consensus is that the Dad is doing a good thing by making his young daughter hold that sign.

The name of the blog where that sign was found is "Parenting Failures". I had to point that out to people. "The name of the blog is PARENTING FAILURES for a reason." I stopped myself from typing , " This is abhorrent and detestable."

What part of a blog/picture named "parenting failures" makes you want to post that on your fb and say "YEAH BABY".

People come to me for parenting advice on teens and I have to bite my tongue when I know they've spent the last thirteen years humiliating the kid and breaking down the relationship.

GAH!!

hey mommy · 07-20-2012, 10:05 PM

We should be FB friends..

This morning i started a debate about this with some of my local friends on FB. My friend T posted it on our friends wall. I posted speaking out against it, which didn't go over well with my friend T.

J3K · 07-20-2012, 10:41 PM

Yeah , my cousin (much beloved) is the one that posted it on his wall. His friends (and his wife ) liked it and commented on how great is was.

and yeah to the friend thing too...

saturnfire16 · 07-20-2012, 10:54 PM

I saw that. It's so sad. And it seems like parents are trying to out do one another with who can publicly humiliate their child more and get all kinds of high fives and kudos from other parents.

Codi · 07-21-2012, 12:19 AM

I haven't seen that one..............yet.

I have seen the one that says something like, "I fear a world ran by children who were not spanked, got trophies just for participating....."

LearningMama · 07-21-2012, 11:09 AM

I saw this today and hid it from my feed.

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Originally Posted by saturnfire16

I saw that. It's so sad. And it seems like parents are trying to out do one another with who can publicly humiliate their child more and get all kinds of high fives and kudos from other parents.

It does seem like that

Let's go humiliate our kids on Facebook and then everyone will tell me how great of a parent I am

Amy · 07-21-2012, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by LearningMama

I saw this today and hid it from my feed.

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It does seem like that

Let's go humiliate our kids on Facebook and then everyone will tell me how great of a parent I am

I may have to quote you if I ever come across that pic or one like it!

LearningMama · 07-22-2012, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Amy

I may have to quote you if I ever come across that pic or one like it!

Quote away

Victorious · 07-22-2012, 02:55 PM

I've seen one on pinterest that's a note on the front door that says "since you missed curfew, you can sleep on the porch, I've left a pillow for you this time". It's usually captioned "awesome parenting". Really? Just about every kid I know (including goody-2-shoes me) would just go back out or crash with friends or boyfriend. Stupid parenting!

ThreeKids · 07-22-2012, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Codi

"I fear a world ran by children who were not spanked\

I already live in a world where most people spank. I'm unimpressed.

SewingGreenMama · 07-22-2012, 08:25 PM

I'm afraid of a world filled with kids who grow up thinking that the only choices are either to spank or to allow their children to do what ever they want.
Most people think those two are the only options. At one point I did too. Jesus has shown me a better way!

Little Forest · 07-22-2012, 08:48 PM

I don't do FB, but that would be really great to have an image of Nazi soldiers and a caption, "A world run by children who were spanked."

As far as the original, I would ask, does the father have to use a sign to point out any of his sins? That would be a good place to put the quote from Christ, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." What a shame.

Rugayatu · 07-23-2012, 10:00 AM

I haven't seen this one yet. How utterly sad.

I did see one the other day that is a little boy standing with his arms crossed and it says, "So, you just hit me because I hit my sister to teach me that it's not okay to hit people? Superb logic." That one I reposted.

ruhama · 07-23-2012, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by TradCathMamma

I don't do FB, but that would be really great to have an image of Nazi soldiers and a caption, "A world run by children who were spanked."

As far as the original, I would ask, does the father have to use a sign to point out any of his sins? That would be a good place to put the quote from Christ, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." What a shame.

Really? Nazis?

Hilary316 · 07-24-2012, 08:02 PM

I saw the "I lied to my dad" last week and got into a little discussion about it on a Christian group Im on. I was the only one that thought it was too harsh, unnecessary, shameful, etc. One guy actually said shaming is important when disciplining children. He kept saying, "Well I bet she wont lie again!" and Im like.. Umm yeah. She wont lie, but it isnt because she respects her dad or loves him, it will be out of fear. And who is going to make her hold up the sign when she's out of the house and can do whatever she wants? This kind of discipline will never reach a child's heart. Its so funny these same people like to make SACH and Ted Tripp out to be Gospel, but have no idea what "shepherding a heart" even looks like. It really puzzles me.

07-20-2012, 09:45 PM	#1
J3K Deactivated Hi ! I'm Myrtle. I like to pretend I'm an R.O.U.S. Join Date: May 2005 Location: under the cat Posts: 17,112	Really people ?? There is a fb meme that is driving me batty. A little girl is holding a sign that says "I lied to my Dad" in a public parking lot with him looking on. The general consensus is that the Dad is doing a good thing by making his young daughter hold that sign. The name of the blog where that sign was found is "Parenting Failures". I had to point that out to people. "The name of the blog is PARENTING FAILURES for a reason." I stopped myself from typing , " This is abhorrent and detestable." What part of a blog/picture named "parenting failures" makes you want to post that on your fb and say "YEAH BABY". People come to me for parenting advice on teens and I have to bite my tongue when I know they've spent the last thirteen years humiliating the kid and breaking down the relationship. GAH!!

07-20-2012, 10:05 PM	#2
hey mommy Rose Garden I am so hopelessly in love.. Join Date: May 2006 Location: Chillin' in the California hills Posts: 24,678	Re: Really people ?? We should be FB friends.. This morning i started a debate about this with some of my local friends on FB. My friend T posted it on our friends wall. I posted speaking out against it, which didn't go over well with my friend T. __________________ Janice (ISFP), single-mommy to Cias(11) Samuel( 4) and 2 babies in heaven Scully: You know, there is life on this planet. Mulder: I've seen the life on this planet, Scully, that's why I'm looking elsewhere. A Check out my NEW facebook page. I am now a Plexus Ambassador.

07-20-2012, 10:41 PM	#3
J3K Deactivated Hi ! I'm Myrtle. I like to pretend I'm an R.O.U.S. Join Date: May 2005 Location: under the cat Posts: 17,112	Re: Really people ?? Yeah , my cousin (much beloved) is the one that posted it on his wall. His friends (and his wife ) liked it and commented on how great is was. and yeah to the friend thing too...

07-20-2012, 10:54 PM	#4
saturnfire16 Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: North Eastern CA Posts: 9,119	Re: Really people ?? I saw that. It's so sad. And it seems like parents are trying to out do one another with who can publicly humiliate their child more and get all kinds of high fives and kudos from other parents. __________________ ~Emily INTJ, Type 4 Wife to D Mama to: E 12/05 L 7/08 Z 12/10 A 6/14 and J in heaven 2/10 Torah Keeping, Unschooling Family My blog on unschooling and family life: Peace On Dark Nights.

07-21-2012, 12:19 AM	#5
Codi Rose Garden Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 25,840	Re: Really people ?? I haven't seen that one..............yet. I have seen the one that says something like, "I fear a world ran by children who were not spanked, got trophies just for participating....." __________________ MOMMY TO A - 14 A - 11 N - 8

07-22-2012, 02:55 PM	#9
Victorious Rose Garden Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 3,763	Re: Really people ?? I've seen one on pinterest that's a note on the front door that says "since you missed curfew, you can sleep on the porch, I've left a pillow for you this time". It's usually captioned "awesome parenting". Really? Just about every kid I know (including goody-2-shoes me) would just go back out or crash with friends or boyfriend. Stupid parenting! __________________ Mom to 3 little women and one little man Meg (01/03/07) Jo (11/10/08) Amy (04/26/11)

07-22-2012, 08:25 PM	#11
SewingGreenMama Rose Trellis Deuteronomy 11:19 Join Date: May 2012 Location: Tennessee Posts: 3,052	Re: Really people ?? I'm afraid of a world filled with kids who grow up thinking that the only choices are either to spank or to allow their children to do what ever they want. Most people think those two are the only options. At one point I did too. Jesus has shown me a better way! __________________ "Reflections like these lead one to spare the rod ... purely because it is not easy to find a punishment that does not defeat it's own ends." -Charlotte Mason Parents and Children pg. 171 "If punishment were necessarily reformative, and able to cure us all of those 'sins we have a mind to,' why, the world would be a very good world;" -Charlotte Mason, Parents and Children pg. 172 W&C 8/4/06; G 15yo , M 11yo , S 8/29/13 , V 8yo , Baby 2yo

07-22-2012, 08:48 PM	#12
Little Forest Rose Garden Rich in girls. Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Perth hills, Australia Posts: 6,915	Re: Really people ?? I don't do FB, but that would be really great to have an image of Nazi soldiers and a caption, "A world run by children who were spanked." As far as the original, I would ask, does the father have to use a sign to point out any of his sins? That would be a good place to put the quote from Christ, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." What a shame. __________________ A traditional Catholic mamma ISFJ, DYT Type 2/1, Steiner-inspired mother to: Sweet Pea-DD1, Jan 04, 1/4 Tiger Lily-DD2, Jan 06, 2/1 Buttercup-DD3, Feb 08, 2/4 Dandelion-DD4, Nov 10, 2/3 Honeysuckle-DD5 March 13, 2/4 And there is DH too, ISTJ, DYT 4/2, I think!

07-23-2012, 10:00 AM	#13
Rugayatu Climbing Rose Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Northeast Posts: 1,163	Re: Really people ?? I haven't seen this one yet. How utterly sad. I did see one the other day that is a little boy standing with his arms crossed and it says, "So, you just hit me because I hit my sister to teach me that it's not okay to hit people? Superb logic." That one I reposted. __________________ Erin INFJ wife to hard-working cowboy DH ~ 6/5/2005 mama to sweet and spunky DD ~ 9/2/09 squishy and serene DS ~ 1/12/14 and my angel baby ~ 1/8/2008 "The work we do is only our love for Jesus in action." ~Mother Theresa

07-24-2012, 08:02 PM	#15
Hilary316 Rose Blossom Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 223	Re: Really people ?? I saw the "I lied to my dad" last week and got into a little discussion about it on a Christian group Im on. I was the only one that thought it was too harsh, unnecessary, shameful, etc. One guy actually said shaming is important when disciplining children. He kept saying, "Well I bet she wont lie again!" and Im like.. Umm yeah. She wont lie, but it isnt because she respects her dad or loves him, it will be out of fear. And who is going to make her hold up the sign when she's out of the house and can do whatever she wants? This kind of discipline will never reach a child's heart. Its so funny these same people like to make SACH and Ted Tripp out to be Gospel, but have no idea what "shepherding a heart" even looks like. It really puzzles me. __________________ ...Hilary... mommy to Charlotte (12/08) Clara (11/10) Benjamin (12/12) Luke (7/15)

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