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Old 10-09-2020, 07:21 AM   #1
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I had an experience recently that was a little difficult and I'm looking for some advice on how to deal with follow up.

Dh and I are part of an intentional community meant for people planning to move overseas for disciple-making purposes. It's part of a larger organization, and last month we had a socially distanced training conference together with the other groups from this organization in our city. We are older than most of the people in the organization including the vast majority of the leadership.
At this event we were getting to know one of the leaders of one of the other groups who just had a baby. The baby was 8 weeks at that time. He shared that he and his wife had paid for some type of training or program of some kind that was going to help them sleep train their baby and that the goal was for the baby to sleep one hour at night per week of age, until at 12 weeks the baby would sleep 12 hours at night. I was pretty flabbergasted. The group activities were resuming and I just am not good at responding to things in the moment so I didn't really say anything at the time.
I was very unsettled by what this young dad shared. I went back and forth a lot about whether I should say something. Ultimately I felt like I should say something since it felt like the program he described wasn't just something I disagreed with but could be medically dangerous (I would not have said anything if baby was 7 months, even though I still wouldn't have liked it, but this just was so extreme). So I tried to casually get into conversation with the parents again, but that never happened and I ended up just blurting my concerns out to them at the very end of the event as everyone was leaving. It was really unsatisfying. I kind of figured I would never see them again so I would just pray for them. However, it turns out we might see them again this weekend. So, how would you approach this family? Should I try to have more of a conversation? Just leave it alone? I'm not sure what to do.

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