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Old 10-17-2009, 08:13 AM   #61
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do you mean people really do that with their babies. how do you know that? is it advised somewhere ???

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i swear that something it wrong with my computer (or my vision) i did not see that this had six pages of responses.

ignore me. i will go read the responses!

(this has got to be the third time I have done that in the last 12 hours )
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Old 10-17-2009, 10:27 AM   #62
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do you mean people really do that with their babies. how do you know that? is it advised somewhere ???

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i swear that something it wrong with my computer (or my vision) i did not see that this had six pages of responses.

ignore me. i will go read the responses!

(this has got to be the third time I have done that in the last 12 hours )
not your computer I think GCM is having glitches. It keeps doing the same thing to me too (showing no or little response, open it up and there are a few pages in actuality)
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Old 10-17-2009, 12:10 PM   #63
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That is pretty horrifying.
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Old 10-18-2009, 01:41 PM   #64
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Wow. I am speechless. I cannot believe that parents are using glue sticks to spank their children. How heartbreaking. Those poor little ones.
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Old 10-18-2009, 02:05 PM   #65
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You can find news reports that contain posts about spanking children with gluesticks. And not in a "My word, how abusive!" kind of way
http://health.usnews.com/articles/he...nking-bad.html
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I just don't really understand what people must be thinking to be thinking
I mean it seems spanking is one thing but then moving to the thought process "I need to hit my child with something that does not leave a mark" - I mean that is a bit off. Really warped. I need to hit them hard enough to leave a mark but I don't want to leave a mark so what can I hit them hard enough so that it is hard "enough" but does not leave the undesired proof of me hitting my child that hard

This is what serious child abusers do; that is hit in such a way as to not leave a mark or leave marks where people won't see them.

And loving Christian parents and gangbangers are thinking the same way just puts the whole thing in perspective

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Old 10-18-2009, 03:11 PM   #67
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I just don't really understand what people must be thinking to be thinking
I mean it seems spanking is one thing but then moving to the thought process "I need to hit my child with something that does not leave a mark" - I mean that is a bit off. Really warped. I need to hit them hard enough to leave a mark but I don't want to leave a mark so what can I hit them hard enough so that it is hard "enough" but does not leave the undesired proof of me hitting my child that hard

This is what serious child abusers do; that is hit in such a way as to not leave a mark or leave marks where people won't see them.

And loving Christian parents and gangbangers are thinking the same way just puts the whole thing in perspective
That is precisely what I would say to a parent who made the mistake of telling me they "didn't want to leave marks" while punishing their children.
I would comment "That's what child abusers do. Hit them where the marks wont' show, so they won't get in trouble with the law. That's what domestic abuse looks like too, by the way." And then I would follow them to their car, write down the license plate number and call Children and Youth Those poor babies

You know those long, thin plastic tubes that light up and you put them around you neck at carnivals and such? Flutterbye has one and she has hit my husband and I with it in her excitement more than once. I finally threw it out when she was napping because it HURTS! I cannot imagine doing that on purpose to a small child with the force of an adult
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Old 10-18-2009, 03:16 PM   #68
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Oh yay, I have been hit by one of those, they sting - totally can't imagine hitting another human being on purpose with one of those much less one my little girls
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Wow, that is a fascinating story, and you
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I don't have much to say except ... WOW.

Until this thread I'd never heard of parents using glue sticks to hit their children.
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the craft gluesticks that you use for a glue gun- they are about 10 inches long
they are touted by several pro spankers as the best way to spank without leaving marks.
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Was just thinking of this story while talking to a friend today and thought I'd come and this thread because it's an awesome story I think should be shared
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thank you Heather.

i was another who was going wow.

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Thank you so much for bumping this. I added it to my webpage and facebook page.

I remember as a child how horrified I was by the neighbors who used to whip their children with hot wheel tracks.
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Thanks, bliss, for posting the original story so long ago I'm glad it was bumped because I would have never seen it otherwise!
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