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10-28-2005, 05:44 PM | #1 |
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A Very Important GCM Statement
Grace-Based Discipline is a model of discipline which, though it rejects the popular view that the rod references spankings, affirms the authority of parents as outlined in the Bible. Extending grace to our children is not permissiveness. We believe that parents are to set a high standard for behavior and children are to uphold that standard. Many gentle parents are prudent and selective about the type and number of rules they enforce. Many grace based parents enforce those rules using low coercion, cooperation, negotiation and compromise. However, GCM does not embrace the philosophy behind TCS ("Taking Children Seriously") or non-coercive parenting. True, quality discipline combines knowledge of age appropriate behaviors, reasonable standards, clear expectations, proactive discipline and consistency. Grace is extended in a parent’s willingness to help their children meet that standard when needed and to forgive when the standard is missed.
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10-28-2005, 05:52 PM | #2 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
Wow, very helpful, thanks!!!
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10-29-2005, 04:17 PM | #3 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
Very very good - that clarifies a lot in my mind
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10-29-2005, 05:18 PM | #4 | |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
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10-29-2005, 05:22 PM | #5 | |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
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10-29-2005, 05:40 PM | #6 | ||
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
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That's a real nut shell idea of what it teaches.
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11-03-2005, 10:45 AM | #7 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
Thanks for the clarification of GBD. I had never heard of it before (less than a month ago) when I joined GCM.
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02-27-2006, 06:40 AM | #8 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
Would anyone know where I could print some info for me to read and then talk about to my dh? He's not too into GBD or AP for that matter.
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03-22-2006, 01:43 PM | #9 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
You may print things from here for personal use and from my website also. http://www.aolff.org
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03-08-2007, 02:32 PM | #10 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
So, does Unconditional Parenting fall under the NCP umbrella?
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03-08-2007, 07:30 PM | #11 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
No--not on its own. UP as it was written has a lot of great info that I would say is beginner GBD 101 Unfortunately, Kohn's ideas have been co-opted by the TCS/NCP community and if you learn about his ideas from a list or board you may have unknowingly heard those ideas instead of Kohn's unadulterated ideas.
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03-08-2007, 07:43 PM | #12 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
I first heard about the book on MDC, but I got my info from the book itself. Or rather, the bit that I skimmed. I looked it over long enough to know I wanted to buy it and read it more carefully. I'd like to read yours too, and I'd be interested in how it's "beginner GBD 101".
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03-08-2007, 07:54 PM | #13 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
well he challenges the cultural embrace of punishment and manipulation to get our way as parents. A rejection of that is assumed in GBD
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03-08-2007, 08:14 PM | #14 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
Ah, I see. I think I'd definitely like to read both.
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10-15-2007, 05:21 AM | #15 |
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Re: A Very Important GCM Statement
Hi -- I am new here and I had not heard of GBD before I joined here -- it is basically what we do (try to do ) as parents already but I had never heard it labelled as a certain approach -- so it is great to be affirmed and encouraged in that way! We all need reminders though, and I love your summary of GBD -- I am printing it and putting it on the fridge with our monthly text! Just wanted to encourage you and let you know what a positive influence this forum can be!
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