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Tasmanian Saint
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Re: how to get out of a punitive mindset
I second
the Five Steps
as a starting point
. A big thing for me in the beginning was that if DS didn't obey me, I'd panic: Now what do I do? The Five Steps gave me an answer.
I also second getting understanding of normal childhood development - especially at your DD's age, which is a particularly difficult one
Enjoy the journey!
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