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I was raised with punitive discipline and my husband also, we started out very grace-like when DD was born but a friend who was trying to help gave me the TTUAC when she was just about 2 and Created to be his helpmeet books along with a few other parents who swear this is the only way. there is also a created/helpmeet bible study EVERYONE I know goes to, it really screwed up our heads and now it's been very hard to get out of the "you need to be punished" mindset.
I was on the pets page today and yesterday asking about if it was even possible to train our dog gently too. this made me realize WE have been "trained wrong" with how to deal with most conflicts

Any ideas on how to get out of this Punitive mindset?
also hubby struggles with guilt that if you aren't punitive it makes you permissive

__________________

all around crunchy,
T1 diabetic and oil field mama
Enfp/Entj/Entp
~Anna~
to HB-DD Nakyla

8/12/08
HB-stillborn 38w DS Anias

4/15/11

following a grain-free, sugar-free
Paleo/Primal/GAPS type diet

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07-26-2012, 12:26 PM	#1
Annalou Rose Bush Crunchy mama Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Western ND Posts: 304	how to get out of a punitive mindset I was raised with punitive discipline and my husband also, we started out very grace-like when DD was born but a friend who was trying to help gave me the TTUAC when she was just about 2 and Created to be his helpmeet books along with a few other parents who swear this is the only way. there is also a created/helpmeet bible study EVERYONE I know goes to, it really screwed up our heads and now it's been very hard to get out of the "you need to be punished" mindset. I was on the pets page today and yesterday asking about if it was even possible to train our dog gently too. this made me realize WE have been "trained wrong" with how to deal with most conflicts Any ideas on how to get out of this Punitive mindset? also hubby struggles with guilt that if you aren't punitive it makes you permissive __________________ all around crunchy, T1 diabetic and oil field mama Enfp/Entj/Entp ~Anna~ to HB-DD Nakyla 8/12/08 HB-stillborn 38w DS Anias 4/15/11 following a grain-free, sugar-free Paleo/Primal/GAPS type diet

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