[rjy9343]

I have often wondered if her father approved of the marriage. From what I remember, her father was rather modern in his attitudes towards women and would not have forced her to marry anyone if he could avoid it. But it has been fifteen or twenty years since I read about him.
I am not so sure about Anne Marie Ezzo, she has a background in pediatric nursing. She should know better than I do the dangers of what she is spouting. In addition to that, both of her children cut her out of their lives.
As harsh as Susanna Wesley was, all of her children spoke of her warmly and fondly. As punitive as my mother was/is, she has a very close and warm relationship with me and close relationship with my three brothers. Not to mention she is hands down the favorite grandparent of her all of her grandchildren. I think the difference is the attitude. SW and my mother both genuinely loved their children and did what they believed was needed to put them on the right path and keep them there. It was about control in the sense that they believed they needed to keep the children in line so that they did not turn into delinquents.
It was not about managing inconveniences and forcing the child to fit into the preconceived idea of what a child should be like. Nor was it ever about not letting a child change your life. I actually said something like that and my mother was horrified and told me to put the baby up for adoption if I was going to be so selfish as to force a child with no choice in her parents to accommodate me. I had a choice, she did not and I needed to respect that now or find her parents that would. ( I wonder why she is the favorite?)