I remember once (a good while back) being on the phone with Crystal, right after E had turned four...I said something about her doing something sweet and baby-like, and she murmured, "At four, they really ARE still babies!" That really was a turning point for E and my relationship.
You're very right, Heather, and it always really melts my heart and softens my expectations on them and myself when I remember all the things you mentioned; I'm glad you posted it again, because, now, with three "babies", it's good to hear.