Oh no! She's looking for decluttered toys!

WI Mama05 · 12-30-2008, 03:22 PM

Right after baby #3 was born I went through the girls' room while they were at Grandma's and took out FOUR big bins of stuffed animals, dolls and misc toys that they weren't really playing with. They didn't even seem to notice, but now DD is looking for her octopus! She hasn't played with it in a good year I think

. I'm in trouble now.

Do I dig it out (the bins are in the basement still) or let it go? She's been looking for it all day.

Codi · 12-30-2008, 03:28 PM

Awww...Hmm...that one is a head scratcher. Ds would totally do something like that.

swimming with sharks · 12-30-2008, 04:21 PM

I'd get it out after she was asleep...then tomorrow find it. If she's still looking for it.

I wouldn't bring up that you had 4 boxes of stuff...

Jenny · 12-30-2008, 05:10 PM

My 6yo notices almost *everything* I declutter. Even stuff he hasn't played with in months- within a few days of removing it, he's asking where it is.

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Originally Posted by swimming with sharks

I'd get it out after she was asleep...then tomorrow find it. If she's still looking for it.

I wouldn't bring up that you had 4 boxes of stuff...

I think that's what I'd do.

pastelsummer · 12-30-2008, 05:24 PM

I would just tell them that you had to get rid of some stuff and thats where its at. My parents did that to us all the time. We got to many and they would clean them out and then tell us if we looked for something later

Epieikeia · 12-30-2008, 05:28 PM

Since it's just one toy and she has been intent on looking for it--I would just grab it for her....one octopus isn't going to undo the 4 bins.....

illinoismommy · 12-30-2008, 06:48 PM

I've had this problem too. I've put stuff away to get rid of later and then months later D will be looking for it. He has a memory like a steel trap. I have serious problems getting rid of stuff because he knows.

Heather Micaela · 12-30-2008, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Epieikeia

Since it's just one toy and she has been intent on looking for it--I would just grab it for her....one octopus isn't going to undo the 4 bins.....

I agree. BUt this is why I (and not suggesting this is best for all) declutter in FRONT of them (Except for really junky things) I get some tears and we do some bargaining, but I dont want them to fear things will just disspear from them or that because they are kids they have no say.

ShangriLewis · 12-30-2008, 06:56 PM

We pack toys away and only allow what they will clean up. If you are considering that, I would offer an exchange. She has to give you something for the octopus. If you plan to get rid of everything, I would just sneak it into her room when she is sleeping. What a fun surprise that would be for her!

MarynMunchkins · 12-30-2008, 08:29 PM

Now I'd probably just find the one toy. For my one that notices and obsesses, I have her help declutter with me. She's done that since she was 4 or so. It's simpler in the long run.

Rabbit · 12-31-2008, 12:26 AM

We rotate toys, so stuff is always coming and going, but not really gone unless it's broken or they have way aged out of it.

TraceMama · 12-31-2008, 04:31 AM

Mine seem to have their toys catalogued too and would eventually remember that one of them was missing.

You've been given some great advice already.

Like others, I'd probably just restore the missing octopus

Hope it goes well.

12-30-2008, 03:22 PM	#1
WI Mama05 Rose Garden God, you've got this! Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 15,865	Oh no! She's looking for decluttered toys! Right after baby #3 was born I went through the girls' room while they were at Grandma's and took out FOUR big bins of stuffed animals, dolls and misc toys that they weren't really playing with. They didn't even seem to notice, but now DD is looking for her octopus! She hasn't played with it in a good year I think . I'm in trouble now. Do I dig it out (the bins are in the basement still) or let it go? She's been looking for it all day.

12-30-2008, 03:28 PM	#2
Codi Rose Garden Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 25,840	Re: Oh no! She's looking for decluttered toys! Awww...Hmm...that one is a head scratcher. Ds would totally do something like that. __________________ MOMMY TO A - 14 A - 11 N - 8

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pastelsummer Rose Garden I am where I am only by the Grace of GOD Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Where I choose to be Posts: 9,230	Re: Oh no! She's looking for decluttered toys! I would just tell them that you had to get rid of some stuff and thats where its at. My parents did that to us all the time. We got to many and they would clean them out and then tell us if we looked for something later __________________ Elizabeth. (ISFP) Single mama to "Sissy" 6/07 "Bubba" 3/09 "Princess" 9/11 read about some content may be sensitive my life My Poetry I am not the princess in the tower, I have slayed my own dragons. I am the queen of my country leading the way. If you want me you need to walk beside me not in front of me or behind me.

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Epieikeia Deactivated Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 9,282	Re: Oh no! She's looking for decluttered toys! Since it's just one toy and she has been intent on looking for it--I would just grab it for her....one octopus isn't going to undo the 4 bins.....

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illinoismommy Rose Garden Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 25,657	Re: Oh no! She's looking for decluttered toys! I've had this problem too. I've put stuff away to get rid of later and then months later D will be looking for it. He has a memory like a steel trap. I have serious problems getting rid of stuff because he knows. __________________ Mommy to: Ds (9.5), Dd (7), Ds2 (6), and Ds3 (4.5).

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swimming with sharks Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 15,480	Re: Oh no! She's looking for decluttered toys! I'd get it out after she was asleep...then tomorrow find it. If she's still looking for it. I wouldn't bring up that you had 4 boxes of stuff... __________________ Swimming with Sharks Loving my DH for 19 years 'Pete' 8.5 yo dd 'Dragonfly' 6 yo ds the new kid is 3.5 yo ds always remembering the one I didn't get to hold Mary has been healed by the blood of the lamb

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ShangriLewis Moderator in Vegetarianism & Veganism Arrange whatever pieces come your way. ~VW~ Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: North Dakota Posts: 16,446	Re: Oh no! She's looking for decluttered toys! We pack toys away and only allow what they will clean up. If you are considering that, I would offer an exchange. She has to give you something for the octopus. If you plan to get rid of everything, I would just sneak it into her room when she is sleeping. What a fun surprise that would be for her! __________________ Heather The Prophet 23yob, The Peacemaker 20yob, The Warrior 17, The Little Flower 11yog and The Surfer 9yob and our little birdie girl 4yo.

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12-31-2008, 04:31 AM	#12
TraceMama Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 21,723	Re: Oh no! She's looking for decluttered toys! Mine seem to have their toys catalogued too and would eventually remember that one of them was missing. You've been given some great advice already. Like others, I'd probably just restore the missing octopus Hope it goes well. __________________ *Tracey* Blessed to be married 24 years. Ever-learning Gentle Mama to 3 Amazing Boys (17, 14, 12) I am determined to be invincible until He has finished His purpose in me.

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