Seriously... we're adults!

Abibigail · 12-27-2008, 10:21 AM

One of my brothers created a group for our family on Facebook where we can share pics of the kids, coordinate get-togethers, etc. Well, I posted a pic of DD1 standing on a chair "helping me" give DD2 a bath in the kitchen sink. You could see a few (seriously, it's like, three) glasses that didn't make it into the dishwasher next to the sink, but I figured that just shows that it's a kitchen sink...
Let me share that I am super sensitive about my messiness. I never learned to keep house, and I woh f/t, so this is a real area that I need to work on and improve, and it bothers me when people joke about it. A lot.
One of my brothers comments on the picture, "Hey, maybe when you're done cleaning the new baby, you'll get around to cleaning your dishes... haha jk" Another brother says, "HAHAHA!"

Awesome, y'all. Real cute. And here's the thing. I can't say anything about it b/c it was a joke, and I'm being "oversensitive."

I knew GCMers would understand.

Cookie Momster · 12-27-2008, 10:37 AM

Emerald Orchid · 12-27-2008, 10:45 AM

I don't know if you're the type to do this (I am

) but you could post your own comment like "I was waiting for you guys to come over and help... oh wait, guys don't do dishes!" or "Once you guys have worked f/t, taken care of the kids, fed everyone, etc. then you can joke about my 3 glasses still left over." Or you could just play it nice and send them a private message saying these type of comments hurt you.

Marielle · 12-28-2008, 10:06 PM

"Thanks for volunteering! You can come over on Saturday to clean. "

Aisling · 12-28-2008, 10:09 PM

I hate those kinds of comments, too. That was incredibly insensitive!

pastelsummer · 12-28-2008, 10:26 PM

lmgeenw · 12-28-2008, 10:51 PM

klpmommy · 12-29-2008, 05:42 AM

that would hurt me, too. I like Marielle's response.

AmyDoll · 12-29-2008, 06:21 AM

MarynMunchkins · 12-29-2008, 07:55 AM

12-27-2008, 10:21 AM	#1
Abibigail Rose Garden Abby-bigail! Not a-BIB-igail. :) Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Just east of the Mississippi. :) Posts: 7,896	Seriously... we're adults! One of my brothers created a group for our family on Facebook where we can share pics of the kids, coordinate get-togethers, etc. Well, I posted a pic of DD1 standing on a chair "helping me" give DD2 a bath in the kitchen sink. You could see a few (seriously, it's like, three) glasses that didn't make it into the dishwasher next to the sink, but I figured that just shows that it's a kitchen sink... Let me share that I am super sensitive about my messiness. I never learned to keep house, and I woh f/t, so this is a real area that I need to work on and improve, and it bothers me when people joke about it. A lot. One of my brothers comments on the picture, "Hey, maybe when you're done cleaning the new baby, you'll get around to cleaning your dishes... haha jk" Another brother says, "HAHAHA!" Awesome, y'all. Real cute. And here's the thing. I can't say anything about it b/c it was a joke, and I'm being "oversensitive." I knew GCMers would understand. __________________ Abigail...but you can call me Abby Full-time student, baby! part-time Spanish interpreter and Single Mama to E, 12/06, and L, 07/08! Never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be. --Clementine Paddleford

12-27-2008, 10:37 AM	#2
Cookie Momster Rose Garden Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 4,083	Re: Seriously... we're adults! __________________ ~ Single mama to five blessings ~ ~ one Tween two Young Thinkers and two Little Explorers ~ ISFP/Type 2 ~ Forgiveness happens when it becomes unimportant to hit back ~ Unite! ~

12-27-2008, 10:45 AM	#3
Emerald Orchid Rose Garden Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Québec, Canada Posts: 8,591	Re: Seriously... we're adults! I don't know if you're the type to do this (I am ) but you could post your own comment like "I was waiting for you guys to come over and help... oh wait, guys don't do dishes!" or "Once you guys have worked f/t, taken care of the kids, fed everyone, etc. then you can joke about my 3 glasses still left over." Or you could just play it nice and send them a private message saying these type of comments hurt you. __________________ French-Canadian / Reader / TrailRunner / T4 / INTj / Wife to S SAHM to 3 DS Z (8.5) M (6.5) and T (3.5) Adopting from China

12-28-2008, 10:06 PM	#4
Marielle Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 7,321	Re: Seriously... we're adults! "Thanks for volunteering! You can come over on Saturday to clean. " __________________ Marielle esFP (yup, they're visually proportional) dyt type 3 and my type 3 smilies cook, sew, knit, crochet, repeat - my blog http://www.maricucu.blogspot.com Married to T for 13 years and watching over the herd: I 10.5 yo R 8.25 yo N 5.5 yo M 3.75 yo “Never put off till tomorrow what may be done day after tomorrow just as well.” -Mark Twain

12-28-2008, 10:09 PM	#5
Aisling Deactivated Even artichokes have hearts! Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 33,230	Re: Seriously... we're adults! I hate those kinds of comments, too. That was incredibly insensitive!

12-28-2008, 10:26 PM	#6
pastelsummer Rose Garden I am where I am only by the Grace of GOD Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Where I choose to be Posts: 9,230	Re: Seriously... we're adults! __________________ Elizabeth. (ISFP) Single mama to "Sissy" 6/07 "Bubba" 3/09 "Princess" 9/11 read about some content may be sensitive my life My Poetry I am not the princess in the tower, I have slayed my own dragons. I am the queen of my country leading the way. If you want me you need to walk beside me not in front of me or behind me.

12-28-2008, 10:51 PM	#7
lmgeenw Rose Trellis Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 3,349	Re: Seriously... we're adults! __________________ Leah Wife to DH since 1999 Momma to 3 awesome kiddos IBCLC and postpartum doula in private practice

12-29-2008, 05:42 AM	#8
klpmommy Deactivated Beware the gorgon, she's having a bad hair day Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: DFW area Posts: 54,024	Re: Seriously... we're adults! that would hurt me, too. I like Marielle's response.

12-29-2008, 06:21 AM	#9
AmyDoll Deactivated Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: State of Grace Posts: 11,062	Re: Seriously... we're adults!

12-29-2008, 07:55 AM	#10
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