ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8

tempus vernum · 08-04-2008, 04:41 AM

Attitutde shift - harnessing the power of acceptance
Reason: the moment is as it is
Discipline skill: empathy
Discipline value - compassion

REading

Challenge - week 6 p 266 to 267
Power of acceptance - p 37 to 39
Skill of empathy - handling the fusses and the fits p 60
Epathy - handling the fussing and fits - Ch 8 p 165 to 186

This may be the only thread I am able to start like this until friday

Tomorrow is Luke's hospital day and Wednesday and Thursday I have jury duty all day.

So do your reading, set your goals and check in. I will check in when I can

Have a great week

The Tickle Momster · 08-04-2008, 07:18 AM

:coffee subbing

MamaMansa · 08-04-2008, 08:57 AM

I finally got caught up on the reading, and am about 1/2 way through this week's reading.

It was a very peaceful weekend around here.

KLin · 08-04-2008, 10:53 AM

Jodi, Just want to say thank you for keeping us on track

Hope the rest of your week goes smoothly. I am still working on the reading and my life with boys is continuing to improve. Off to do laundry, home school and read.

Amber · 08-04-2008, 11:50 AM

I completely forgot to do last weeks reading

Last week was crazy. So I am going to get caught up this week.

The Tickle Momster · 08-05-2008, 07:27 AM

I'm catching up on the reading. Empathy is a tough one for me. The script "you wanted __________, so you __________ " really helps.

I struggle with the disrespect/tone of voice that she talked about, It really does color my perception negatively. Gotta work on that.

ViolaMum · 08-05-2008, 09:22 AM

This challenge has been so good for me! Thank you, SonshineMama for organizing it. Good luck this week.

Attributing positive intent has been a tough one for me. It feels a little contrived, but I'm pleasantly surprised when it works. It's enough to keep me working at it.

I'm off to do more reading . . . . . . . . . .

Amber · 08-06-2008, 10:01 AM

This morning started out so good. Everything was fine in the 15min between when I got up and left for a run

When I left both boys were awake and happy. BUT, when I got back Kyle was screaming because dh made his oatmeal wrong

and it has just gone downhill from there. It is only 10am and Cole has melted down once, and Kyle twice...and there was some sort of shrieking and screaming coming from the playroom a minute ago, but that seems to have resolved itself :/.

Okay. I am making the choice to turn this around as much as I can and make this day better than what is has been so far. Even if it is just that I make it through this day with a better attitude.

The Tickle Momster · 08-06-2008, 10:45 AM

You can do it Amber!

KLin · 08-06-2008, 12:31 PM

I am still reading. I am just to chapter 10. I do not have page numbers so that part of the challenge is out of me. I have been sick for a month.

I am sick again today. My six yr old is helping fold and put away laundry in between his home school lessons.

My three yr old is playing nice with the neighbor in the living room. So I am very thankful all is going peaceful in the house. DH is on the road again. I am trying to accept the way things are and not being upset at my health or my traveling husband. My boys are doing wonderful over the past month.

Amber · 08-06-2008, 05:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Tickle Momster

You can do it Amber!

I did do it

And I am very proud of myself for it

I got everyone dressed and shoes on without too much of a fuss, and got them out the door to go to a store that had my favorite spaghetti sauce on sale so I could stock up on it

Then we hit Goodwill and found a book for them. They did pretty good. Came home, fed them an easy no fussing lunch and they went down for long naps without a problem

They woke up from their naps happy and have been playing fuss-free since then.

Dh will be home soon and I will be leaving to go help out with the church youth group.

peacefulveganmom · 08-06-2008, 09:09 PM

Still here

...

REALLY behind

on my reading....

and all these threads, too...

but did want to make a point to check in and say I appreciate all your work, Sonshine Mama. Thank you!

tempus vernum · 08-07-2008, 05:32 AM

yay Amber!

So glad these threads are helping everyone. Maybe we should make this thread weekly instead of daily

because I am wondering if that is easier

I made it through the hospital and jury duty. Tuesday, the hospital was a long Day. LisaM watched the girls while I took Luke and that was a huge help.

Yesterday I got sent home at noon from jury duty. MamaMansa had my kiddos and so I went there and didn't leave until 3:30pm. So today, I am pretty tired

I bet Laura's more tired though

because she had 6 children instead of 3

We made thtrough most of the week w/o any too major issues.

Leaving Laura's was difficult for Savana. I had to start taking off her costume while she melted down because her choice was to let me do it. WHen I went to grab her clothes, she snuck back in her costume. I needed a break from her and decided to put my stuff in the van first. Came back and Laura had dressed her

I am so blessed to have such wonderful GCM's in my life

Both that my kids know, like and trust.

The only problem w/leaving the kiddos with people was that Luke was kind of disappointed that he didn't get to stay with Lisa on Tuesday.

I had a couple of minor moments along with just an overall feeling of tiredness from being gone like that 2 days in a row. I was just glad it was 3 and I was excused from day 2 of jury duty

I am hoping today is low key and mellow but realize that after our schedule has been so crazy

it's unlikely so my goal today is to be "there" enough to help everyone get through the day with grace

tempus vernum · 08-11-2008, 05:50 AM

week 7 is posted

Radosny Matka · 08-13-2008, 09:15 AM

Well, I learned something this week, I *stink* at empathy.

08-04-2008, 04:41 AM	#1
tempus vernum Rose Garden I am the mountain. I am not the storm and the storm is not me. -Ian Cron Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 28,913	ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 Attitutde shift - harnessing the power of acceptance Reason: the moment is as it is Discipline skill: empathy Discipline value - compassion REading Challenge - week 6 p 266 to 267 Power of acceptance - p 37 to 39 Skill of empathy - handling the fusses and the fits p 60 Epathy - handling the fussing and fits - Ch 8 p 165 to 186 This may be the only thread I am able to start like this until friday Tomorrow is Luke's hospital day and Wednesday and Thursday I have jury duty all day. So do your reading, set your goals and check in. I will check in when I can Have a great week __________________ ~Spring always comes after winter~ 2 Corinthians 4:16 “ Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. ”

08-04-2008, 07:18 AM	#2
The Tickle Momster Rose Garden previously mlrowley Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: NW WA Posts: 17,952	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 :coffee subbing __________________ Michelle wife to Tom ('95) Momma to: DD (A) 21 and her DH (YM) 21 DS (T) 19 DD (C) 17 '07 DS (N) 14 Save Save

08-04-2008, 08:57 AM	#3
MamaMansa Deactivated Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 1,333	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 I finally got caught up on the reading, and am about 1/2 way through this week's reading. It was a very peaceful weekend around here.

08-04-2008, 10:53 AM	#4
KLin Rose Garden Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Arizona Posts: 3,575	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 Jodi, Just want to say thank you for keeping us on track Hope the rest of your week goes smoothly. I am still working on the reading and my life with boys is continuing to improve. Off to do laundry, home school and read. __________________ Kendra wife to lifelong love. Mother of two active munchie boys Destroyer5/28/02 Conqueror 1/8/05

08-04-2008, 11:50 AM	#5
Amber Rose Garden Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: The rainy side of Washington. Posts: 18,232	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 I completely forgot to do last weeks reading Last week was crazy. So I am going to get caught up this week. __________________ Amber ISFJ Wife to my wonderful DH And keeper of the boys Big M (6/03) Forever ours Dec 2012 C (6/04), Little M (10/05) Forever ours Dec 2012 K (5/06) Missing our foster daughter Miss A

08-05-2008, 07:27 AM	#6
The Tickle Momster Rose Garden previously mlrowley Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: NW WA Posts: 17,952	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 I'm catching up on the reading. Empathy is a tough one for me. The script "you wanted __________, so you __________ " really helps. I struggle with the disrespect/tone of voice that she talked about, It really does color my perception negatively. Gotta work on that. __________________ Michelle wife to Tom ('95) Momma to: DD (A) 21 and her DH (YM) 21 DS (T) 19 DD (C) 17 '07 DS (N) 14 Save Save

08-05-2008, 09:22 AM	#7
ViolaMum Rose Garden Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 5,542	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 This challenge has been so good for me! Thank you, SonshineMama for organizing it. Good luck this week. Attributing positive intent has been a tough one for me. It feels a little contrived, but I'm pleasantly surprised when it works. It's enough to keep me working at it. I'm off to do more reading . . . . . . . . . . __________________ Darcy married to my Photographic Genius (1/00) Mom to: Prima, Secunda, Tertia, and Quarta Youth and Beauty are fleeting, but the ability to bake a great chocolate cake lasts forever!

08-06-2008, 10:01 AM	#8
Amber Rose Garden Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: The rainy side of Washington. Posts: 18,232	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 This morning started out so good. Everything was fine in the 15min between when I got up and left for a run When I left both boys were awake and happy. BUT, when I got back Kyle was screaming because dh made his oatmeal wrong and it has just gone downhill from there. It is only 10am and Cole has melted down once, and Kyle twice...and there was some sort of shrieking and screaming coming from the playroom a minute ago, but that seems to have resolved itself :/. Okay. I am making the choice to turn this around as much as I can and make this day better than what is has been so far. Even if it is just that I make it through this day with a better attitude. __________________ Amber ISFJ Wife to my wonderful DH And keeper of the boys Big M (6/03) Forever ours Dec 2012 C (6/04), Little M (10/05) Forever ours Dec 2012 K (5/06) Missing our foster daughter Miss A

08-06-2008, 10:45 AM	#9
The Tickle Momster Rose Garden previously mlrowley Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: NW WA Posts: 17,952	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 You can do it Amber! __________________ Michelle wife to Tom ('95) Momma to: DD (A) 21 and her DH (YM) 21 DS (T) 19 DD (C) 17 '07 DS (N) 14 Save Save

08-06-2008, 12:31 PM	#10
KLin Rose Garden Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Arizona Posts: 3,575	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 I am still reading. I am just to chapter 10. I do not have page numbers so that part of the challenge is out of me. I have been sick for a month. I am sick again today. My six yr old is helping fold and put away laundry in between his home school lessons. My three yr old is playing nice with the neighbor in the living room. So I am very thankful all is going peaceful in the house. DH is on the road again. I am trying to accept the way things are and not being upset at my health or my traveling husband. My boys are doing wonderful over the past month. __________________ Kendra wife to lifelong love. Mother of two active munchie boys Destroyer5/28/02 Conqueror 1/8/05

08-06-2008, 09:09 PM	#12
peacefulveganmom Deactivated Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 1,621	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 Still here ... REALLY behind on my reading.... and all these threads, too... but did want to make a point to check in and say I appreciate all your work, Sonshine Mama. Thank you!

08-07-2008, 05:32 AM	#13
tempus vernum Rose Garden I am the mountain. I am not the storm and the storm is not me. -Ian Cron Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 28,913	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 yay Amber! So glad these threads are helping everyone. Maybe we should make this thread weekly instead of daily because I am wondering if that is easier I made it through the hospital and jury duty. Tuesday, the hospital was a long Day. LisaM watched the girls while I took Luke and that was a huge help. Yesterday I got sent home at noon from jury duty. MamaMansa had my kiddos and so I went there and didn't leave until 3:30pm. So today, I am pretty tired I bet Laura's more tired though because she had 6 children instead of 3 We made thtrough most of the week w/o any too major issues. Leaving Laura's was difficult for Savana. I had to start taking off her costume while she melted down because her choice was to let me do it. WHen I went to grab her clothes, she snuck back in her costume. I needed a break from her and decided to put my stuff in the van first. Came back and Laura had dressed her I am so blessed to have such wonderful GCM's in my life Both that my kids know, like and trust. The only problem w/leaving the kiddos with people was that Luke was kind of disappointed that he didn't get to stay with Lisa on Tuesday. I had a couple of minor moments along with just an overall feeling of tiredness from being gone like that 2 days in a row. I was just glad it was 3 and I was excused from day 2 of jury duty I am hoping today is low key and mellow but realize that after our schedule has been so crazy it's unlikely so my goal today is to be "there" enough to help everyone get through the day with grace __________________ ~Spring always comes after winter~ 2 Corinthians 4:16 “ Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. ”

08-11-2008, 05:50 AM	#14
tempus vernum Rose Garden I am the mountain. I am not the storm and the storm is not me. -Ian Cron Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 28,913	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 week 7 is posted __________________ ~Spring always comes after winter~ 2 Corinthians 4:16 “ Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. ”

08-13-2008, 09:15 AM	#15
Radosny Matka Rose Garden I am so blessed! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: somewhere between sane and crazy Posts: 26,922	Re: ETLDTD week 6 -- 8/4/8 Well, I learned something this week, I stink at empathy. __________________ Sara Wife to Love of my life 8/98 Momma to my precious children: N 17 years, P 13 years, O 5 years! Remembering our babies: 12/98 9/99 12/09 1/17

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