Gentle/Positive Discipline Books

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Please share your favorite gentle/positive discipline book. Also, feel free to post a review of any of the books listed below. Thank you to everyone who has contributed to this list.

A-C

Bailey, Becky - Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline (See past discussions about this book.)
Budd, Linda - Living With the Active Alert Child: Groundbreaking Strategies for Parents
Chou, Grace P. - Disciplining Children with Confidence
Clark, Jean Illsley - Self-Esteem: A Family Affair and Time-In: When Time-Out Doesn't Work
Clarkson, Clay - Heartfelt Discipline: The Gentle Art of Training and Guiding Your Child
Clarkson, Sally - The Ministry of Motherhood: Following Christ's Example in Reaching the Hearts of Our Children
Cohen, Lawerence - Playful Parenting
Colorosa, Barbara - Kids Are Worth It
Crary, Elizabeth - Dealing With Disappointment

D-F

Faber, Adele and Elaine Mazlich -How To Talk So Your Kids Will Listen and Listen So Your Kids Will Talk and Sliblings Without Rivalry
Flower, Hillary - Adventures in Gentle Discipline

G-K

Gordon, Thomas - Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children
Kimmel, Tim - Grace-Based Parenting
Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy - Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles and Raising Your Spirited Child

L-P

Lutton, Crystal - Biblical Parenting and Grace-Based Living.
McKay, Matthew - When Anger Hurts Your Kids
Nelsen, Jane - all Positive Discipline books (note: the ones for younger children are not AP), and Jodi's fav Positive Discipline A to Z
Neufeld, Gordon and Gabor Mate - Hold On To Your Kids - jujubnme says, "He talks about parent-orientation vs. peer-orientation. Very insightful, and good information on parenting from connection. Although it applies for all ages, it's an excellent resource for parents of school-aged kids."
Pantley, Elizabeth - Kid Cooperation: How to Stop Yelling, Nagging & Pleading and Get Kids to Cooperate - kauaidee says, "She does recommend time outs but I found overall her discipline style very gentle. It is one of the most practical books I've read which is what I need right now. I feel like I've got the concept of GBD down but I need ideas and this one gave me lots. Plus she also had a chapter on dealing with anger as a parent which is something I struggle with."; The No-Cry Discipline Solution; and Perfect Parenting: The Dictionary of 1,000 Parenting Tips

Q-T

Sears, William - The Discipline Book and The Successful Child
Tobias, Cynthia Ulrich - You Can’t Make Me But I Can Be Persuaded
Turansky, Scott and Joanne Miller - Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining and Bad Attitudes...in You and Your Kids

U-Z

Whitehurst, Teresa - Jesus on Parenting
Wyckoff, Jerry and Barbara C. Unell - Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking

Not discipline but awesome for every parent:

DeBecker, Gavin - Protecting the Gift
Cloud, Henry and John Townsend - Boundaries - cornflower says, "I've heard that Boundaries with Kids is punitive, though, so perhaps stay away from it."
VanVonderen, Jeff - Families Where Grace is in Place

For kids:

Bang, Molly - When Sophie Gets Angry--Really, Really Angry...
Fox, Mem - Harriet You'll Drive Me Wild! - ShangriLewis says, "It's about a mom who yells after having a lot of patience with a normal little girl, and then they have a big pillow fight. I'm not sure if everyone would like that or not. But, it was good for us because yelling is my downfall. I read that one and the Molly Bang one everynight for Porter for almost 2 years. He loved those books and they were good for me, too."
Joose, Barbara M. - Mama, Do You Love Me? - jujubnme says, "A little Native Alaskan girl asks her mother if she loves her and quizzes her about a bunch of 'what if' situations--one of my favorites: 'What if I put salmon in your parka, ermine in your mittens and lemmings in your mukluks?' The mother answers 'I would be angry [or surprised, worried, etc. in other scenarios]. But still I would love you.' It's very sweet and Julius liked all the arctic animals."

[katiekind]

I would add:

Campbell, Ross - How to Really Love Your Child

Thanks so much. It is really great to find a list of resources.

[BriansLovie]

I would like to recommend "Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery" by Judy Arnall

[mezzBreath]

anyone know about "parenting is heart work"?

This list is so helpful! I have been hunting for some good books on gentle discipline!

[mrsd]

Thank you for posting such a complete and well researched list.

[sweetpeas]

Originally Posted by aboobieaday

anyone know about "parenting is heart work"?

I don't have the book, but I have the CD set and it has helped me SOO much! It's essentially a "prequel" to "Say Goodbye to Whining . . ."

[Amahoro]

I would like to recommend Pinky McKay. An Australian IBCLC and 'go to' woman on all gentle parenting concepts.

Her books include Parenting By Heart, Toddler Tactics, Sleeping like a Baby and 100 Ways to Calm the Crying.

She also has a lovely Facebook page & website & has occasional free teleseminars on parenting topics (sleep, breastfeeding, early days, discipline, toddler issues etc) and I have found them incredibly helpful.

She also has a 'mummy mentoring' program you can subscribe to in order to get more personal assistance.

I just love her!

Pinky McKay. I will def. look her up on facebook. Thank you!

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I agree!!! yay!!! I'm so glad I found this page.

Does anyone have a review on any of the above books? Which ones have really helped you? Which would you recommend? I ordered a few on amazon and was wondering if I should get more based on what has helped others.

I would highly recommend How to Really Love Your Child, by Ross Campbell. It really shaped my thinking when I first read it years ago.

I wanted to add my favorite--

Listening to Children series by Patty Wipfler at Hand in Hand Parenting Website--- Awesome!!
If you could just have 2 books--- I would say .....
1. Listening to Children Series of booklets by Patty Wipfler
2. Connection Parenting by Pam Leo

I'm so glad many of these are available at our local library!

[triscuit]

I've started reading Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. Anyone else read it, what did you think? I really, really like it so far!