ETLDTD - Week 3, friday-sunday

monkeylicious · 08-04-2006, 11:54 AM

From Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey

WEEK THREE

ATTITUDE SHIFT: Harnessing the Power of Free Will
REASON: The only person you can make change is yourself
DISCIPLINE SKILL: Choices
VALUE: Commitment

*Allow others to have their own thoughts and feelings. Pay attention to what you feel when people disagree with you. (most of us feel threatened)

*Resist the need to make others happy or convince them that you have all the answers. remind yourself three times a day, "the only person i can make change is myself." then choose to be pleasant and share that with others.

CHOICES: Building self-esteem and willpower

*figure out when to give an assertive command and when to offer two positive choices. for most children, assertive commands are best when they are feeling overwhelmed or anxious. choices are more helpful when children want to feel empowered. they work wonderfully with empathy. as children make choices and experience the success that comes from their decisions, they learn the balue of commitment.

monkeylicious · 08-04-2006, 12:06 PM

i find that with dd she is too young (language development) to get alot of these things. i do offer choices daily, but feel like her choice has more to do with movement than choosing. and i do give assertive commands, which i usually help her follow. so, i guess i am getting practice in the meantime.

mummy2boys · 08-08-2006, 02:51 AM

I try to be assertive too....but I find it hard when DS #2 is having a "bad" day and thats when I SHOULD be more assertive to help him out

Oh well.....will keep trying

08-04-2006, 11:54 AM	#1
monkeylicious Rose Garden here we go! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: maryland Posts: 5,138	ETLDTD - Week 3, friday-sunday From Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey WEEK THREE ATTITUDE SHIFT: Harnessing the Power of Free Will REASON: The only person you can make change is yourself DISCIPLINE SKILL: Choices VALUE: Commitment Allow others to have their own thoughts and feelings. Pay attention to what you feel when people disagree with you. (most of us feel threatened) Resist the need to make others happy or convince them that you have all the answers. remind yourself three times a day, "the only person i can make change is myself." then choose to be pleasant and share that with others. CHOICES: Building self-esteem and willpower *figure out when to give an assertive command and when to offer two positive choices. for most children, assertive commands are best when they are feeling overwhelmed or anxious. choices are more helpful when children want to feel empowered. they work wonderfully with empathy. as children make choices and experience the success that comes from their decisions, they learn the balue of commitment. __________________ jennifer - formerly jhaud Air Force wife to Bill - 2001 mama to Genevieve aka gigi or monkey - aug 2004 mama to an angel in heaven - july 2005 mama to Evangeline aka evie(licious) - june 2007

08-08-2006, 02:51 AM	#3
mummy2boys Moderator in We'd Love to Meet You, Let's Talk, High Need/Spirited Children, Joyous Homekeeping, and The Cookbook Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 16,027	Re: ETLDTD - Week 3, friday-sunday I try to be assertive too....but I find it hard when DS #2 is having a "bad" day and thats when I SHOULD be more assertive to help him out Oh well.....will keep trying __________________ Alysia Married to the love of my life Mama to 2 wonderful boys Waiting to meet 3 in heaven 2/2005, 5/2007 & 8/2011 Striving, with God's help, to be a gentle mother each day

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08-04-2006, 12:06 PM	#2
monkeylicious Rose Garden here we go! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: maryland Posts: 5,138	Re: ETLDTD - Week 3, friday-sunday i find that with dd she is too young (language development) to get alot of these things. i do offer choices daily, but feel like her choice has more to do with movement than choosing. and i do give assertive commands, which i usually help her follow. so, i guess i am getting practice in the meantime. __________________ jennifer - formerly jhaud Air Force wife to Bill - 2001 mama to Genevieve aka gigi or monkey - aug 2004 mama to an angel in heaven - july 2005 mama to Evangeline aka evie(licious) - june 2007