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Old 07-21-2006, 05:04 AM   #1
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Default ETLDTD - Week One, Friday-Sunday

From Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky A. Bailey:

Week One

ATTITUDE SHIFT: Harnessing the Power of Perception
REASON: To own your own upset.
DISCIPLINE SKILL: Composure
VALUE: Integrity

* when you are upset, you have a problem. your upset is a signal to you. you need to use one of the Seven Powers for Self-Control before you do anything else.

COMPOSURE: Living the values you want your child to develop.
* the use of these exercises will allow you to live the values you want your children to develop. it allows you and your child to live with integrity.
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Old 07-21-2006, 10:06 AM   #2
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* when you are upset, you have a problem. your upset is a signal to you. you need to use one of the Seven Powers for Self-Control before you do anything else.
Wow. That is all I can say. Wow. I'm printing this out to put on my computer -- it is really speaking to me.

Even if I'm upset because of someone else or some situation -- I have a problem. MY upset is MY problem. I need to start with ME. The first item business is me. All the blaming, analyzing, wondering, and complaining about them/him/her/it will wait until I take care of myself.
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DH is back at work so I've had lots of "practice" today. I'm having a lot of trouble with getting upset and very angry. I've been doing the deep breath, "I"m upset and its OK" ect. I just don't understand WHY I'm getting so angry with ds1. I get angry b/c he's getting into stuff. Generally, I feel like half the time he's on the prowl looking for trouble.
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I finally got around to mentioning the 7 week challenge to DH and he said he's in ! He said he would fail at "owning his own upset" and so I reminded him that is why were doing this! So we can get better at what we aren't good at. He works at a High Security Juvenile Detention Center and has 3 days of 12 hour shifts starting tomorrow so I told him he will get lots of practice there
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Okay, so I can (most of the time) own my own upset. But then what do I DO to get my kiddo to do what I want?!?!

One step at a time, I know. I just can't wait till I'm a perfect mom!

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One step at a time, I know. I just can't wait till I'm a perfect mom!
me too!
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