Random Quotes from Wise Mamas |
br>
|
Gentle Discipline *Public* A public forum. GCM Webpage: Gentle Discipline |
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
05-04-2005, 08:43 AM | #1 |
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
LGP week 3 day 3
Resist the need to make others happy or convince them that you have all the answers. Remind yourself three times a day, "the only person I can make change is myself." Then choose to be pleasant and share that with others.
Choices, Building self esteem and willpower Discern how much influence a child has in a given situation. Can she choose to stay up or must she go to bed? Can she choose what to wear or must wear certain attire? Check to see when you offer your child too many choices adn when you offer to few. |
05-04-2005, 09:02 AM | #2 |
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
Re: LGP week 3 day 3
The choices are a good thing to look at. I often have my Dh give me heads up when I'm not giving age appropriate choices - or not giving choices at all (which is more often theproblem given how controling I tend to be. ) I have found that sometimes when my kids are acting up it's because I have either given them too much control/responsibility or not enough and they are overwhelmed or frustrated. It's never a clear cut across the board thing - sometimes it can fluctuate daily!! I've been trying to parent with more .
|
05-04-2005, 09:20 AM | #3 |
Deactivated
Join Date: Mar 2005
Posts: 11,773
|
Re: LGP week 3 day 3
I'm not really to this point yet with dd, she doesn't *get* choices... but I have applied this with dh. I definitely have a tendency to go overboard trying to "cheer him up" when he is not happy. He is also somewhat indecisive, without opinions about different things, like what to eat, what to do with leisure time, etc. So I try to think of 2-3 things I would enjoy and then present him with those options... I does help sometimes, but other times he *still* won't express a preference so I just make the decision and quit worrying about it!
|
05-04-2005, 10:35 AM | #4 | |
Rose Garden
Join Date: Mar 2005
Posts: 5,187
|
Re: LGP week 3 day 3
Quote:
__________________
Wife to DH, friend of my soul... Mama to Mane (age 14), Vespera (age 26), and Niteo (son-in-law) |
|
05-04-2005, 10:55 AM | #5 | |
Moderator
Assign positive intent
Join Date: Apr 2005
Posts: 9,584
|
Re: LGP week 3 day 3
Quote:
__________________
Desiree, mom to 5 sweet blessings, Lacy 24, Jordan 22, Joanna 20, Emma 19, and Ethan 17 |
|
05-04-2005, 12:58 PM | #6 | ||
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
Re: LGP week 3 day 3
Quote:
I was wondering along the same lines yesterday. It seems some people "get" this so much easier than others. DD's speach therapist the other day said "its basic phsychology" and I was like huh? then why dont we all do this, why arent we all just normally this way? why does it seem so stinking hard for some of us? Quote:
I really struggle with my dd's big feelings. I want them to go away. Then, I realized that I have really big feelings to, and I try to stuff them all day long until I become a lunatic I really really have to watch what I eat If I, as an adult, am supposed to have some sort of self control, but dont, how can I expect my dd to? All the big feelings are taxing on me and I feel very stuck. :/ Midnightcafe... wow, you are so right I need to let myself be free I guess. Dh gets really grumpy, and it bothers me, but through our marriage I have learned to be pleasant anyway, and dh has actually appreciated it. His mom always gave silent treatments and it always worked on his dad.... Dh has learned that silent treatments dont work on me, Im gonna go about my day no matter what. he can still be grumpy, but Im not gonna get sucked in. There are times that I do, but usually just when Ive also had a bad day Now if only I could get the same attitude with dd course, dh doesnt scream and thrash around and be all demanding like she does either anyway, totally thinking out loud here... just wrote a book |
||
05-04-2005, 01:22 PM | #7 | |
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
Re: LGP week 3 day 3
Quote:
Ok..really, for some reason this can be much harder with Dh than with the kids...hmmmm.... |
|
05-04-2005, 02:30 PM | #8 | |
Moderator
Assign positive intent
Join Date: Apr 2005
Posts: 9,584
|
Re: LGP week 3 day 3
Quote:
__________________
Desiree, mom to 5 sweet blessings, Lacy 24, Jordan 22, Joanna 20, Emma 19, and Ethan 17 |
|
05-10-2005, 09:24 AM | #9 |
Rose Garden
Join Date: Mar 2005
Posts: 79,607
|
Re: LGP week 3 day 3
I've actually found it helpful to view my children's emotional responses as an indication of where my maturity is in these areas. Children really do as we do If they're yelling a lot and I pay attention I find that I'm yelling a lot
__________________
|
Bookmarks |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|
X vBulletin 3.8.3 Debug Information | |
---|---|
|
|
More Information | |
Template Usage:
Phrase Groups Available:
|
Included Files:
Hooks Called:
|