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02-24-2010, 07:51 AM | #91 |
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Re: What does Pearl actually teach?
What I found in Spunky's review was that the 1999 article on the website - easily searchable, quotable, and linkable - gives one view. Call the law, but be waiting for him when he gets out of jail - bad enough, right?
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From her review (indented quotes are from the book. The rest is hers.): Quote:
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02-24-2010, 12:39 PM | #93 |
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Re: What does Pearl actually teach?
I can see why this stuff is so insidious. Even I am feeling a little confused, because lately I have been led to respond to situations of injustice in my life with grace and kindness rather than my natural inclination, which is to set out on a crusade to right the wrong all in my own strength I'm talking about situations of wrongful accusations against my character, or of people wronging me financially etc. I read a book by John Bevere titled How to Respond When You Feel Mistreated.
But if my husband started abusing anyone in our family, I would take the kids and LEAVE instantly, and get help from a higher authority. So I guess that tosses all of the "turn the other cheek" theology out the window Or put another way, what does scripture say about the line between being gracious toward those who treat us injustly vs. taking action to protect ourselves?
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02-24-2010, 03:08 PM | #97 | |
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02-24-2010, 03:11 PM | #98 |
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Re: What does Pearl actually teach?
Ok so that's a confusing passage. I've also read that all the examples in that passage of the sermon on the mount (carrying gear, striking faces) were examples of passive resistance, ways to level the playing field.
Because to strike a person's cheek going one direction (with open hand) was how you hit a servant. But if they strike again coming back the other way, that's how you strike a person of equal status. Or vice versa, I forget which way was which. And with carrying a soldier's gear, it was legal to make someone carry their stuff one mile. But if they persisted and the person carried their stuff a second mile, the soldier would be in trouble because that was illegal.
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02-25-2010, 09:20 AM | #99 |
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Re: What does Pearl actually teach?
Another good blog, not sure if it's from someone here or not, just found it.
http://www.benedictionblogson.com/20...d-abuse-death/
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02-28-2010, 03:27 PM | #100 |
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Re: What does Pearl actually teach?
wow guys! Great info! Those Pearls are scary people. Yikes!
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02-28-2010, 05:33 PM | #101 |
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Re: What does Pearl actually teach?
The only unfortunate thing about that blog entry is that it says the parents "took Pearl's teachings too far" - as if there's an appropriate way to apply Pearl's teachings.
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03-01-2010, 11:52 AM | #102 |
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Re: What does Pearl actually teach?
But what if this is what he wants? Then you have to give in....right? Even if it's sinful?
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03-01-2010, 12:08 PM | #103 |
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03-01-2010, 12:52 PM | #104 |
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Re: What does Pearl actually teach?
The thing about punitive/adversarial parenting styles is that they don't live up to Jesus' teaching that we should treat others the way we would want to be treated. Which of us wishes our parents had spanked us more as children? Which of us would rather that our parents had taught us with a little more kindness and respect?
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03-01-2010, 01:22 PM | #105 | |
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