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05-06-2012, 05:15 AM | #1 |
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If you praise Ezzo, there's no chance I'm going to stay quiet
I went to my first homeschooling conference yesterday (really awesome, I'm so excited about our choice to HS ), and I had been told on GCM that homeschooling often equals Babywise.
I was attending my third session of the day and this session was unfortunately quite boring. The lady offered almost no practical advice and she kept going on and on about her 5 kids. Then the subject comes up of babies sleeping through the night. She starts saying that she used a program that spaced feedings every 3 hours, but couldn't remember the name, and that her babies all STTN at 3 months. She adds, "Don't worry, it's not torture, it's great!" If you have to qualify your program with "it's not torture", I think there has to be something off! A mom raises her hand and says, "I used Babywise and my 2 children STTN at 2 months!" I raised my hand, boiling inside, and I said, "The AAP has issued a statement against Babywise because it causes failure to thrive in babies." The speaker fumbles a little, says something I can't remember, and goes on to say that as a missionary to Hungary, Hungarians couldn't believe she was doing that to her babies, that they can't stand for a baby to even cry for 2 minutes, because Hungarians are so "soft-hearted". A mom speaks up and says, "Then I must be Hungarian!" Everyone laughed and the topic moved on. I actually "know" who the speaker was, we were in the same (cult-like) ministry for years. She referred to the mom who suggested Babywise, who I also know very well, I went to Christian school with her kids. And let me tell you that as adults, all 4 of her children have turned out really poorly. Why would I take her baby training advice 25 years later? It's come to my attention since becoming a mom that the "grace-based ministry" I used to be part of seems to be as mainstream and Ezzo as anyone else out there. I always thought, grace extends to adults, why not babies? Babies do not deserve grace or a learning curve, apparently.
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05-06-2012, 05:46 AM | #2 |
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Re: If you praise Ezzo, there's no chance I'm going to stay quiet
Thank you for speaking up!
I'm also thankful for the other mom who spoke up. I'm also now totally impressed with Hungarians.
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05-06-2012, 11:09 AM | #3 |
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Re: If you praise Ezzo, there's no chance I'm going to stay quiet
Yes, thank you for speaking up and for sharing the story here I had no idea that Hungarians were horrified by babies crying either That's awesome!
I'm sorry that this group hasn't been as grace-filled as you thought they were It's always difficult to realize that people you care about or respect are involved in something that you know to be cruel or Biblically unsound
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05-06-2012, 11:14 AM | #4 |
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Re: If you praise Ezzo, there's no chance I'm going to stay quiet
Another for you for speaking up with concise and factual words!! That's great of you.
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05-06-2012, 01:11 PM | #5 |
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Re: If you praise Ezzo, there's no chance I'm going to stay quiet
It's yet another disappointment about them, but I haven't been a part of that ministry for a good 5 years, so it's just one more thing to add the long list of yucky/abusive stuff that went on while I was unaware. Thank God my eyes have been opened!
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05-06-2012, 01:27 PM | #6 | |
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Re: If you praise Ezzo, there's no chance I'm going to stay quiet
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05-06-2012, 04:19 PM | #7 |
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Re: If you praise Ezzo, there's no chance I'm going to stay quiet
Yay for Hungarians!
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05-07-2012, 01:44 PM | #8 |
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Re: If you praise Ezzo, there's no chance I'm going to stay quiet
good for you.
im with ya on that. BW *never* gets a ride in my presence
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05-07-2012, 05:16 PM | #9 |
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Re: If you praise Ezzo, there's no chance I'm going to stay quiet
My mother is Hungarian and we are related by marriage to Emmi Pikler.
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