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02-28-2006, 01:35 PM | #61 | ||
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
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02-28-2006, 01:41 PM | #63 |
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
Janet: I didn't understand the point of "blanket time" either! When I first read that part ds was only 4 months old, so he pretty much stayed wherever I put him, but I didn't see any logical reason for insisting that he stay in one spot when he reached the age of exploring . Even now, yeah he pulls out all of my canned goods each morning, but so what? Its part of how they grow and learn.
Oh, I just wanted to add that I was filing some parental permission slips from dh's youth group, and it turns out that one of the teens is an Ezzo! He's actually a really nice young man, and I'm trying to find a polite way of finding out if he is related. Darn pastor's wives... we're all so nosy! |
02-28-2006, 01:41 PM | #64 |
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
Janet: I didn't understand the point of "blanket time" either! When I first read that part ds was only 4 months old, so he pretty much stayed wherever I put him, but I didn't see any logical reason for insisting that he stay in one spot when he reached the age of exploring . Even now, yeah he pulls out all of my canned goods each morning, but so what? Its part of how they grow and learn.
Oh, I just wanted to add that I was filing some parental permission slips from dh's youth group, and it turns out that one of the teens is an Ezzo! He's actually a really nice young man, and I'm trying to find a polite way of finding out if he is related. Darn pastor's wives... we're all so nosy! |
02-28-2006, 01:51 PM | #65 | ||
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
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On another point, the current Babywise does mention 45 minutes of crying in one place, and 35 minutes of crying "off and on" in another. Quote:
For a small example of the toning down....the word "possibly" has been added in the 2001 edition--in 1998 it just said, "five to forty-five minutes. |
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02-28-2006, 01:51 PM | #66 | ||
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
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On another point, the current Babywise does mention 45 minutes of crying in one place, and 35 minutes of crying "off and on" in another. Quote:
For a small example of the toning down....the word "possibly" has been added in the 2001 edition--in 1998 it just said, "five to forty-five minutes. |
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02-28-2006, 10:35 PM | #67 |
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
How heartbreaking!
I'm pretty blunt. I had a friend start babywise on her 1 month old--after she'd been telling me how sweet-tempered her baby was. I told her flat out that Ezzo was the Devil and that she was going to ruin her baby's sweet temper. Then I gave her a bunch of Ezzo links. She was real happy about my pronouncement, but she got over it. And promised that she wouldn't go "to far" in her Ezzo-ing. Whatever. 4 days old and being left to cry alone....I don't think I'd worry about losing that friendship by being extremely blunt with her. Do what you did here, point out to her the fact that you have a well-bonded, confident baby and your other Ezzo friend doesn't.
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02-28-2006, 10:35 PM | #68 |
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
How heartbreaking!
I'm pretty blunt. I had a friend start babywise on her 1 month old--after she'd been telling me how sweet-tempered her baby was. I told her flat out that Ezzo was the Devil and that she was going to ruin her baby's sweet temper. Then I gave her a bunch of Ezzo links. She was real happy about my pronouncement, but she got over it. And promised that she wouldn't go "to far" in her Ezzo-ing. Whatever. 4 days old and being left to cry alone....I don't think I'd worry about losing that friendship by being extremely blunt with her. Do what you did here, point out to her the fact that you have a well-bonded, confident baby and your other Ezzo friend doesn't.
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03-02-2006, 03:54 PM | #69 |
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
UPDATE!
My friend who was Babywising her 4 day old emailed today to ask my advice on what "routines" I use with my DD. It gave me an awesome opportunity to direct her and encourage her to look at other options. She also told me she got the Dr. Sears book I originally recommended and has been reading it and really likes it!! I think this is a good start for her and she seems to be a lot more open minded than she was a few weeks ago. I just wanted to let all of you know that. Thanks for all the thoughts you have given on here and I REALLY appreciate the support!! Happy Mama! |
03-02-2006, 03:55 PM | #70 |
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UPDATE! Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
Read above!
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03-02-2006, 04:02 PM | #71 |
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
WoW!!
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03-02-2006, 04:07 PM | #72 | |||
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
PRAISE THE LORD about your friend!!!!!!!!!!! Quote:
Actually, some kids who are actually tired will cry for this long. My dd would have cried for how knows how long if I had followed the book and she was overtired most of the time I must admit, she just had a really hard time falling asleep and if she started crying she would wake herself up more. If she did cry herself to sleep she would not stay asleep. Anyway...she was complicated and Ezzo's methods were the WORST things in the world for her. I threw the book out in the garbage when my 2nd daughter was little so I can't give page numbers, although I might check it out of the library and look for the quote and references to his horrible cruel parenting advice. I start to fume just thinking about him. |
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03-02-2006, 04:32 PM | #73 |
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
That's so awesome that she is asking you - wow - prayer really changes things and you have an awesome opportunity now, huh?
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03-02-2006, 04:34 PM | #74 |
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
That's great. I'm glad she's looking at other parenting options.
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03-02-2006, 07:15 PM | #75 | |
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Re: My best friend is "babywising" her 4 day old...I am so sad
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These descriptions are on page 146 of the 1998 edition of Babywise and 147 of the 2001 edition. He does mention allowing a baby to cry for 45 minutes when you're dropping a night feeding. That's an eternity for a young baby to cry. |
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