Best kind of help for a friend going through a divorce

Dandelion · 06-15-2016, 07:06 PM

I am not sure if this is the best forum so feel free to move this. I am looking for ideas of ways to help a friend going through a rough time, a very hurtful divorce, with kids and lots of extras in life

. Mostly I am looking for ideas other than food and childcare. I don't think she would take me up on either of those.

MegMarch · 06-15-2016, 07:33 PM

Hug her. Treat her to a pedicure or haircut/blowout. Basically get her some physical touch.

Hang outs. It isn't the same, but my friend who is having a hard time in her marriage right now is very grateful whenever we can just hang out in each other's homes. A sense of normality being around someone. Someone to chat with while doing dishes, you know?

Invite her and her kids to holidays with you guys.

SalH · 06-15-2016, 09:38 PM

Remember her speciAl dates with gifts. Help her children bless her on Mother's Day and maybe ask how she wants support on Father's Day. This Sunday in the uk. Is it us Father's Day this week?

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TheNaturalBetta · 06-16-2016, 12:24 PM

Is she introverted or not? I think knowing that would be a good place to start. If she is a talker then listening calmly to her might help... I guess encouraging ranting would only make her feel worse. I always feel better after spending time outdoors, but what works for me isn't going to help someone else... LoL.

Trixie · 06-16-2016, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by MegMarch

Hang outs. It isn't the same, but my friend who is having a hard time in her marriage right now is very grateful whenever we can just hang out in each other's homes. A sense of normality being around someone. Someone to chat with while doing dishes, you know?

The best things I did with my friends when I was going through my divorce was just to spend time together. I really looked forward to game nights, browsing stores, and just any general thing we could do to get my mind off the negativity. Sometimes they treated me to a movie but what I really enjoyed was just having someone's company.

Dandelion · 06-17-2016, 07:14 AM

Thank you for the replies

She is not a really good friend, more than an aquaintance, but we are not close at all. I will have to brainstorm some more.

Trixie · 06-18-2016, 04:24 PM

Maybe you could just give her a card or a small care package meant just for her. Let her know you are thinking of her and that she is worth being cared for. Its so easy to get lost in childcare, the drama of the situation and all the other burdens. She might like to be reminded in any small way that she is allowed to take a few minutes to take care of herself.

06-15-2016, 07:06 PM	#1
Dandelion Rose Garden Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 5,508	Best kind of help for a friend going through a divorce I am not sure if this is the best forum so feel free to move this. I am looking for ideas of ways to help a friend going through a rough time, a very hurtful divorce, with kids and lots of extras in life. Mostly I am looking for ideas other than food and childcare. I don't think she would take me up on either of those. __________________ aka, mamacheetah, Nicole wife to one daydreamer mama to seven - six boys with a girl in there somewhere B 8/99 O1 5/03 V 6/05 M 7/07 L 11/10 H 11/12 O2 11/15

06-15-2016, 07:33 PM	#2
MegMarch Rose Garden Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 5,922	Re: Best kind of help for a friend going through a divorce Hug her. Treat her to a pedicure or haircut/blowout. Basically get her some physical touch. Hang outs. It isn't the same, but my friend who is having a hard time in her marriage right now is very grateful whenever we can just hang out in each other's homes. A sense of normality being around someone. Someone to chat with while doing dishes, you know? Invite her and her kids to holidays with you guys.

06-15-2016, 09:38 PM	#3
SalH Rose Trellis Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Adelaide, South Australia Posts: 1,590	Re: Best kind of help for a friend going through a divorce Remember her speciAl dates with gifts. Help her children bless her on Mother's Day and maybe ask how she wants support on Father's Day. This Sunday in the uk. Is it us Father's Day this week? Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk __________________ Sal (41) wife to Matthew (41) Home educating mummy to: DS1 (13), DS2 (11) DS3 (9), DD1 (7), DD2 (5) and DD3 (3).

06-16-2016, 12:24 PM	#4
TheNaturalBetta Seedling Rose Join Date: Apr 2016 Posts: 29	Re: Best kind of help for a friend going through a divorce Is she introverted or not? I think knowing that would be a good place to start. If she is a talker then listening calmly to her might help... I guess encouraging ranting would only make her feel worse. I always feel better after spending time outdoors, but what works for me isn't going to help someone else... LoL. __________________ mama to Son-9 years, and Daughter-6 years, and baby Son

06-17-2016, 07:14 AM	#6
Dandelion Rose Garden Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 5,508	Re: Best kind of help for a friend going through a divorce Thank you for the replies She is not a really good friend, more than an aquaintance, but we are not close at all. I will have to brainstorm some more. __________________ aka, mamacheetah, Nicole wife to one daydreamer mama to seven - six boys with a girl in there somewhere B 8/99 O1 5/03 V 6/05 M 7/07 L 11/10 H 11/12 O2 11/15

06-18-2016, 04:24 PM	#7
Trixie Rose Blossom Join Date: Mar 2016 Location: Texas! Posts: 127	Re: Best kind of help for a friend going through a divorce Maybe you could just give her a card or a small care package meant just for her. Let her know you are thinking of her and that she is worth being cared for. Its so easy to get lost in childcare, the drama of the situation and all the other burdens. She might like to be reminded in any small way that she is allowed to take a few minutes to take care of herself. __________________ Trixie Mother to David 2006 Sunshine 2007 Dragon 2008 Mario 2009 Happy 2014 Josiah 2015 Sirena 2016

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