ETLDTD - Week Two, Wednesday and Thursday

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From Easy To Love, Difficult To Discipline by Becky Bailey

WEEK TWO

ATTITUDE SHIFT: Harnessing the Power of Attention
REASON: What you focus on, you get more of
DISCIPLINE SKILL: Assertiveness
VALUE: Respect

*Pay attention to your focus. are you focusing on what you want, or on what you don't want?

*When you are upset, Pivot. tell yourself, "okay, i'm upset. if i'm upset, i'm focusing on what i don't want. do i want more of this in my life?" if the answer is no, take a deep breath. focus on what you want your child to do more successfully. then calmly tell your child what to do and why.

ASSERTIVENESS: Saying no and being heard

*when you feel frustrated with your child, express your thoughts or feelings directly by saying, "i don't like it when you ____," or "when you _______, I feel _______." then assertively tell her what you want her to do.

*Teach your child to handle untrusions by other children in the following manner. go to the victim and say:
1. "did you like it?
2. listen to the no you receive to decide if the victim's energy and confidence level are high or low. if her confidence and energy are low, accompany her to speak to the other child.
3. say to the child, "go tell ________, 'I don't like it when you _______.'"