VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List - Page 3

Redeemed · 08-31-2010, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by charla

So sorry that happened to you. You're doing a great job parenting. Don't mind them...although I know it's hard to have such a huge belief difference from your parents. Maybe they'll see that you are a brick wall and they'll get tired and give it up if they can't respect your boundary.

ETA: I could provide you with some more fireplace kindling for the winter if you need it.

I liked that idea you had earlier, much better. Maybe we ought to have an OKC GCM book burning party. tee hee!

Didn't tell you earlier tonight, but I love you, sister. I'm blessed beyond measure with your friendship!

Hermana Linda · 08-31-2010, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Melissa

Linda:

Thank you so much, sister!

I appreciate it so very much!!!

I am so happy to help.

Heather Micaela · 08-31-2010, 11:05 PM

I once recieved a sermon CD on why we should spank from a single guy who read by blog. He ended up getting married and spanking their son before he turned one

Soliloquy · 08-31-2010, 11:22 PM

Wow.

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For me, this repeated intrustion and urging to abuse would cause me to tell them to silence their mouths (and actions) forever or be cut off from our lives. The Pearls promote abuse. Anyone who repeatedly tried to get me to subscribe to their methods would be out of our lives. And yes, the Pearls reject God's salvation--they think children can be saved from hell through spankings.

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Maggie · 09-01-2010, 01:57 AM

Argh! How infuriating! Sorry they are Pearls fans and are pushing them on you! Glad you called to cancel and told NGJ what you think!

Redeemed · 09-01-2010, 05:15 AM

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Originally Posted by nadezhda

Good for you!

Are you also going to let your dad's wife know you've cancelled the subscription?

I believe I told my dad yesterday when I talked to him I had my name taken off their mailing list.

SIDENOTE/DIGRESSION: I talked to him this morning, but very general topics. He thinks my majoring in psychology is "psychobabble" and not grounded in science or Scripture for that matter. Well, guess what, dad, I'm going to a CHRISITIAN university that makes you write about psychology according to scripture. But he is supportive of what I've chosen to major in as it is truly fascinating to me.

09-01-2010, 05:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Melissa

I believe I told my dad yesterday when I talked to him I had my name taken off their mailing list.

SIDENOTE/DIGRESSION: I talked to him this morning, but very general topics. He thinks my majoring in psychology is "psychobabble" and not grounded in science or Scripture for that matter. Well, guess what, dad, I'm going to a CHRISITIAN university that makes you write about psychology according to scripture. But he is supportive of what I've chosen to major in as it is truly fascinating to me.

I am really sorry you have to deal with this. To be perfectly honest, I would not be comfortable allowing people who constantly criticize me and my decisions open access to my life. I would put a hard fast boundary in place for my family's and my own protection and sanity. To have someone nitpick your decisions is just crazymaking, and also very rude. I know he is your father but you are an adult.

arymanth · 09-01-2010, 06:12 AM

If it had been me, I would have taken the Pearls materials and sat down and wrote copious notes on EVERYTHING in them (this is not scriptural... see "X" scripture. This is abusive and contrary to "X" scripture, etc.) Then I would hand-deliver my copy to the person who sent it to me and tell them that I read it, I didn't agree with it, and I canceled the subscription, but they could have my copy.

For ME, already having grown up with this kind of philosophy, it helps to sit down and minutely deconstruct these kind of arguments so they are exposed for the lies they are, and then writing down what the scriptures actually DO say about those subjects. It is replacing lies with the truth. HOWEVER, I don't think this is a good idea for everyone, because those negative thoughts and images have a way of creeping into your head, even when you know they're wrong. (Garbage in, garbage out)

Two Little Birds · 09-01-2010, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Melissa

Oh yeah, the CTBHHM book stepmom bought for me has been lost in the house somewhere. LOL! I do plan on using it as kindling for the fireplace this winter. ha ha ha

I guess I do need to find some humor. The catalog made it's way into the trash last night!

"Thanks for the kindling, but if you really want to provide heat for us this winter a cord of wood would be appreciated."

Synesthesia · 09-01-2010, 11:42 AM

Hurm. I'd explode. Even the fire would spit that out because it's so revolting.
Shame there's no such magazine as Marsipial Moms. Someone should invent it.

Zooey · 09-01-2010, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Hermana Linda

Oh, no! She got to him, too.

You know, even without factoring in the abuse stuff, the Pearls' teachings are heretical. Check out my arguments from pro-spankers, maybe you can find one to share with him.

This.

Sparrow · 09-01-2010, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Melissa

Oh yeah, the CTBHHM book stepmom bought for me has been lost in the house somewhere. LOL! I do plan on using it as kindling for the fireplace this winter. ha ha ha

I guess I do need to find some humor. The catalog made it's way into the trash last night!

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Originally Posted by Melissa

SIDENOTE/DIGRESSION: I talked to him this morning, but very general topics. He thinks my majoring in psychology is "psychobabble" and not grounded in science or Scripture for that matter. Well, guess what, dad, I'm going to a CHRISITIAN university that makes you write about psychology according to scripture. But he is supportive of what I've chosen to major in as it is truly fascinating to me.

For all his faults and toxic waste, wasn't Dobson the first Christian psychologist? Didn't he pave the way?

Redeemed · 09-01-2010, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by mamaBear

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For all his faults and toxic waste, wasn't Dobson the first Christian psychologist? Didn't he pave the way?

mamaBear: yep. Just so happens, my therapist doesn't like him, either!

And she's a Biblical counselor.

I

my therapist!!! She's the best!!!

08-31-2010, 11:05 PM	#33
Heather Micaela Rose Garden Bar/Bat Mitzvah picture with husband Michael. Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Within sight and earshot of the Disneyland fireworks Posts: 39,893	Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List I once recieved a sermon CD on why we should spank from a single guy who read by blog. He ended up getting married and spanking their son before he turned one __________________ Heather ESFJ T4 Messianic Joshua-13 Christina- 11 Amalia Linda-8.5 Trinity-7 Gabriel-5 w/ADHD, ASD & Dyslexia Taylor Jordan11/15/04 SkyeDakota10/12/05 Life is a pile of good things & bad things The good things don't always soften the bad things but the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things

08-31-2010, 11:22 PM	#34
Soliloquy Rose Garden Why climb a mountain? Because it's there! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Selkirk Mountains Posts: 52,860	Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List Wow. . . For me, this repeated intrustion and urging to abuse would cause me to tell them to silence their mouths (and actions) forever or be cut off from our lives. The Pearls promote abuse. Anyone who repeatedly tried to get me to subscribe to their methods would be out of our lives. And yes, the Pearls reject God's salvation--they think children can be saved from hell through spankings. Posted via Mobile Device

09-01-2010, 01:57 AM	#35
Maggie Deactivated love Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 23,071	Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List Argh! How infuriating! Sorry they are Pearls fans and are pushing them on you! Glad you called to cancel and told NGJ what you think!

09-01-2010, 06:12 AM	#38
arymanth Rose Bouquet Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: NE Wisconsin Posts: 959	Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List If it had been me, I would have taken the Pearls materials and sat down and wrote copious notes on EVERYTHING in them (this is not scriptural... see "X" scripture. This is abusive and contrary to "X" scripture, etc.) Then I would hand-deliver my copy to the person who sent it to me and tell them that I read it, I didn't agree with it, and I canceled the subscription, but they could have my copy. For ME, already having grown up with this kind of philosophy, it helps to sit down and minutely deconstruct these kind of arguments so they are exposed for the lies they are, and then writing down what the scriptures actually DO say about those subjects. It is replacing lies with the truth. HOWEVER, I don't think this is a good idea for everyone, because those negative thoughts and images have a way of creeping into your head, even when you know they're wrong. (Garbage in, garbage out) __________________ Stephanie, Mom to Seven Sensational Kids... Christopher -24, Jordan -21, Ian -19, Benjamin -16, Ivy -14, Josie -7 and Ronen -4 and creator of IvyRose Spica Chairs Now blogging at The Shepherd's Apprentice

09-01-2010, 11:42 AM	#40
Synesthesia Rose Garden Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Near Boston Posts: 10,012	Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List Hurm. I'd explode. Even the fire would spit that out because it's so revolting. Shame there's no such magazine as Marsipial Moms. Someone should invent it. __________________ Is this love big enough to watch over me? Big enough to let go of me Without hurting me, Like the day I learned to swim?-Kate Bush, The Fog Wielder of the Katana of Lepidoptera and General Randomness.

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