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Old 12-20-2011, 12:14 PM   #151
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Default Re: A radical idea - viewing kids as babies till 5

this! Thank you!
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Old 12-22-2011, 03:37 PM   #152
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I think it can be harder on us (as caregivers) but even more important to remember for those kids who are phsically/intellectually more mature that emotionally they still need us the same (or sometimes, more) than their peers do. I think this continues beyond infancy (5 years or whichever age they make the 'jump') as even older kids who are developed/bright may often be expected to act more mature emotionally than they are capable of.
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Old 01-27-2012, 02:44 PM   #153
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Tay, special needs children need to be treated according to their developmental age, not their actual age. Just like preemies for the first few years need to be compared to their actual age and not adjusted age. That makes it all harder--but IME having a special needs child made it even more real how much up to age 5 they were just little ones. When a 4yo is acting like a 4yo it's frustrating--when a 10yo is acting like a 4yo it's sad
I know this is an old thread, I just have to say, thank you! It is SO hard to keep the special needs age in check. I mean, my ds(almost 9) is an Aspie and emotionally, he's like a 6-7 yr. old and it's HARD to keep that in perspective. It's even harder b/c he's physically the size of a 10-12 yr old. So, I look at him and think, "Why are you acting like this!!!?", but most of the time I forget that on the outside, he's a big guy, on the inside he's a little guy who has a really hard time sometimes.

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Old 05-07-2012, 09:06 AM   #154
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I love this concept as well, and it explains so much of my instinct with littles that yes, they're very smart, but they're LITTLE, you know?
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Old 05-15-2012, 04:05 PM   #155
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That was very helpful. Thank you! Can you explain more about what you learned about infants until 5 in hebrews? Never heard that before.
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Old 06-02-2012, 03:30 PM   #156
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Thank you, I struggle with this because my 4 year old is as big as an average 6 year old, and shows great maturity in some things, and sometimes it takes my by surprise to realize he is only 4, and I have to catch myself when I realize I starting to expect him to act the age he looks and not the age he is.
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Old 07-08-2012, 08:26 PM   #157
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Chiming in with all the others..... for this post!
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Old 08-29-2012, 11:18 AM   #158
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I posted in this thread as my son was turning 5. Now my daughter is less than a week away from the same milestone. It's great to be reminded of all of this again.
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This thread has helped me so much over the past few years. Now my oldest baby is turning 6 next month, and I don't want to believe it
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Old 09-29-2012, 10:30 AM   #160
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Brilliant! Thank you so much for this post. I've never thought of this but now I will spend time thinking and praying about this because it make so much sense.
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I loved this. I found a huge part of my failures in parenting comes from unrealistic expectations. When I put my child back in the frame of what can reasonably be expected of them, things go much smoother.
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I've found this to be very helpful for me as well - although, personally, I noticed a HUGE difference in maturity at 7. It was as if a switch flipped with my older two on their 7th birthday.
I kind of group my kids 0-6. Then 7-9 is a big jump.

Love original post and made me feel like I am on the right path.
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This is so good may I share it?
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This is so good may I share it?
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