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04-29-2012, 02:07 PM | #1 |
Rose Garden
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Combating destructive "play"
In an 11 year old.
She took putty or spackel - some sort of wall patch, and smeared it on untreated drywall, a speaker and a chair, ruining those items, the putty knife (which actually wasn't a putty knife, but something of dh's) and the putty. Today she got a hold of WD-40, caulk, and grease. Smeared those items on the swingset. It won't come off. These are expensive items she's ruining, with the exception of the WD-40. I can't realistically ask her to replace the items. I don't think. I told dh that I remember playing with stuff that I wasn't supposed to after I cleaned up about half a can of shaving cream she squeezed all over a towel. (Super easy clean up.) But, I also cleaned up after myself and once was rather enough. Line of sight supervision is exhausting. We went down that road last time. She was only allowed to be in the bathroom or bedroom alone.
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04-29-2012, 04:53 PM | #2 |
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Re: Combating destructive "play"
Asking for clarification....
Why didn't she clean up the mess? (Specifically the shaving cream that you cleaned up) |
04-29-2012, 05:07 PM | #3 |
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Re: Combating destructive "play"
sounds all sensory....can you up the input and line of sight?
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04-29-2012, 05:20 PM | #4 | |
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Re: Combating destructive "play"
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I can go back to line of sight at all times. It's just very, very stressful for me.
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04-29-2012, 05:30 PM | #5 |
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Re: Combating destructive "play"
it sounds like some sensory play might help her. There is a thread in LE about it. My big kids love sensory play as much as my littles. And I think they need it just as much.
Also, P *needs* heavy exercise on a very regular basis. I make him push the reel mower, do jumping jacks, run laps for time. Playing "escape" with me is another helpful thing b/c he is working against my weight and strength. When he gets that heavy energy out it really seems to help with other areas. |
04-29-2012, 07:51 PM | #6 |
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Re: Combating destructive "play"
Well, big muscle movement is hard to get her. We had to withdraw from dance. She went horseback riding on Saturday and she was a completely different child. She was calm, asked to be touched - back rub, shoulder rub, that kind of thing. I need to figure out how to get her more.
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04-29-2012, 09:41 PM | #7 |
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Re: Combating destructive "play"
Would she do an exercise or dance video, with you or by herself? That would be one way to get some large motor exercise. Or of course there's dance in the living room to music. There are obstacle courses you can build with tables, chairs, furniture, hoops, string laid out on the floor.
If you have a tree sending her out to climb it could work. And yes, put her in charge of cutting the lawn. |
04-30-2012, 08:25 PM | #8 |
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Re: Combating destructive "play"
Along with providing her an outlet for her energies, as far as paying you back, no, she can't afford it. Bike riding and roller blading are big ones in this house.
But, something my mother did when I was younger is she assigned price values to chores, and I had to do chores to reach that goal. So if it was $100 of damage, I had to do chores that added to that amount before I could receive anything, like a toy, I wanted.
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