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Old 10-31-2018, 10:49 AM   #16
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We have rehomed two animals due to children. Both we had before kids/ Our cat was horribly miserable and refused to come out of the basement where we kept her litter because because he was afraid of our children my sister took her.

Our dog nipped at our son and my cousin took her. I don't have advice as I didn't have to do any research or much networking but will be praying for you. it was so so hard.
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Old 10-31-2018, 06:27 PM   #17
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Our vet is also a mother of a young child and is pro-Feliway.

For the litter issue, I didn't see, is the box covered? If so, I'd take the cover off since that is very stressful for some cats. Cat Attract brand litter or additive to current litter should both be helpful.

Nature's Miracle or another enzyme based cleaner will be your best bet for cleaning but for the infant seat, if you aren't discarding, ask the manufacturer for their protocol so warranty and whatnot isn't voided.

For rehoming - FB groups will be great for getting word out. But you might get some ugly backlash so perhaps use an alternate account

I would suggest a criteria of: no small children or dogs, ideally no other pets, paying a fee that you will return to them as credit at a vet of their choice.

I would also suggest scooping the box 2x a day (I know this is usually your H's task) so that she's less likely to make messes for you guys to clean and less likely to get in the habit and then be rejected by a new family. Also, consider a second box in another location. We have three cats and adding a box in another room to our current set up has pretty much ended our dumb/stressed/weird cat's inappropriate peeing. It's a drag having a box in our hall bathtub, but it's better than finding stuff that's been peed on.
No cover anymore. We took it off forever ago. She did fine with the cover for a while but then started going outside the box.

We literally have zero places we could put a second litter box We live in a townhome, and space is already super limited, and KO goes in every other room except DH's office When we rented a house, we were able to have two litter boxes (but we also had two cats at the time).

We can try to clean twice a day, but doing it once a day is already a struggle. Maybe Dh and I can work something out, though.

I'm about online backlash, tbh; I have no qualms unfollowing and blocking people who terrorize me.

Thanks for the ideas! Hopefully something helps while we look for a home for her

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We have rehomed two animals due to children. Both we had before kids/ Our cat was horribly miserable and refused to come out of the basement where we kept her litter because because he was afraid of our children my sister took her.

Our dog nipped at our son and my cousin took her. I don't have advice as I didn't have to do any research or much networking but will be praying for you. it was so so hard.
Thank you so much. It is so hard-- like, all of us are miserable. The cat. DH. Me. Actually, KO loves the cat But every time she's around, Minion just runs away and refuses to be in our presence It's hard to see our sweet kitty so miserable

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We tried to rehome one of our cats a few years ago. Long story short, she had a terrible breakdown when we moved into our current house. She was absolutely miserable. We tried two different meds, and ended up having kore success with Buspar, which we had compounded at a local pharmacy. We were able to eventually wean her off of it. We tried a ďcalming collarĒ that released pheromones but didnít notice a difference for her.

I reached out to one or two rescue agencies suggested by our vet and they were not helpful. They considered her a senior cat at the age of 6-7 years old and told me it would be nearly impossible to find a home for her. I tried posting on our neighborhood fb page and no one responded. I avoided our ďcity neighborhoodĒ fb page Bc there are some extremely harsh people there.

Ultimately, she did get better and sheís now fine - no meds, no collars, no special food, etc. However, it took our other cat dying for her to fully recover. Thatís obviously very different than your situation. So my recommendation is try meds if youíre able to, and see if any rescue agencies around you are more helpful. Iím sorry your cat isnít adjusting to your baby. Itís tough!


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Thank you! We are going to the vet tomorrow. I'll ask about rescue agencies... we live in a pretty big city, so maybe there's one that will be helpful?

DH doesn't want to try meds. We're going to have to rehome her regardless (his allergies play into all of this, too...they're bad, y'all). So what the point in meds? <-- his words.

This whole thing is so hard. I feel sick over it.
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Thanks for the ideas! Hopefully something helps while we look for a home Thank you! We are going to the vet tomorrow. I'll ask about rescue agencies... we live in a pretty big city, so maybe there's one that will be helpful?



DH doesn't want to try meds. We're going to have to rehome her regardless (his allergies play into all of this, too...they're bad, y'all). So what the point in meds? <-- his words.



This whole thing is so hard. I feel sick over it.

My husband would probably feel the same way about the meds, if rehoming was the definite plan. But if youíre not able to immediately rehome her (like rescues wonít take her and you donít want to take her to the pound) meds might offer some relief for the behavioral symptoms that are bothering you, in the meantime. Itís a tough situation all around. And Iím sure the allergies make it that much harder. I hope you find a great home for her soon.



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My husband would probably feel the same way about the meds, if rehoming was the definite plan. But if youíre not able to immediately rehome her (like rescues wonít take her and you donít want to take her to the pound) meds might offer some relief for the behavioral symptoms that are bothering you, in the meantime. Itís a tough situation all around. And Iím sure the allergies make it that much harder. I hope you find a great home for her soon.



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