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Old 07-27-2015, 02:18 PM   #1
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My (almost) 8 yo and 9 yo call each other names when they are mad at each other. I have told them that they cannot do that. That the only acceptable name is their actual name. I have tried over and over. But they still do this. What can I do to help stop this?
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DS called DD "dumb" today. At the time ds had to stop playing with what he was playing with for awhile - so that toy had to go away and then they had to play separately for a bit.

If they can't play nicely, they need a break from each other.
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They never really play together. They just get upset with each other about things like she took my toy/candy/lipgloss.
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I give them options of what they can say and have them repeat it.

"I'm angry that you took my lip gloss without asking!"

"Since you took my candy, I expect you to pay me for it."

If they can't/won't use acceptable language, they have to go to their room (or outside, some place to be alone) until they're calm enough to use acceptable language.
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