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Old 03-06-2010, 05:27 PM   #1
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Lightbulb Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

I'm captivated, and can't stop reading it. I want to write to her and invite her to browse through GCM, but I want to read all the way to the beginning (I'm reading it backwards). In a nutshell, it's the daughter of someone who is sort of high up in the Gothard "ministry," and who has left the whole QF/ ATI movement, and is speaking out about her experiences. It's pretty powerful, and she's remarkably insightful. Check this out:

http://razingruth.blogspot.com
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Old 03-06-2010, 05:37 PM   #2
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Default Re: Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

I've read it and I agree with all your conclusions--she's a great writer and it's insane what she's recovered from. I knew someone in ATI and it was horrible.

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Old 03-06-2010, 05:53 PM   #3
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Default Re: Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

over some of this stuff....
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Default Re: Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

Fascinating. I've only read the first page of posts, but wow.
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Default Re: Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

Really interesting. Thanks for posting the link. I can't imagine trying to recover from that.
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Default Re: Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

I had wondered about Gothard...a childless, never married man. How did he get to be such an expert?
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Default Re: Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

Wow, I've been reading for the last 30 min. How old is she exactly? Early twenties? She seems so mature & well spoken.
I became a follower.
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Wow, I've been reading for the last 30 min. How old is she exactly? Early twenties? She seems so mature & well spoken.
I became a follower.
She mentions in one of the first blogs that she was born in 1984. Her mom was a high school teacher before she was married and homeschooled her kids.
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It won't load for me...
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what is ATI?
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Half of it is blocked by my filter and I forget the code. BUT what I have read is amazing. Praying for her!
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I always wonder if any of the Duggars will come out of that.
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I read just about all of it now. Wow! I could say so much... wasn't the story about how the family dealt with 9/11 warped? What a window into a Gothard family.
I pray all of her other siblings come out of it too.

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some sad stuff.
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I love that blog. But yeah, it's sad, too.
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