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09-30-2006, 03:15 PM | #16 |
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Re: a question for those who use to be punitive
I forgot to add to my last post. . . .this is partly where my many questions come from. How can our hearts be "deceitful and wicked" and still be able to be right with God? How is 'showing' our children punishment getting them closer to understanding what God has done for them? I can only surmise that I am not bright enough to be able to "get it" and put it all together into what he means and says.
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09-30-2006, 03:21 PM | #17 | |
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Think of this--you are SINGLE until you are MARRIED; your heart is deceitful until grace makes it clean
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09-30-2006, 03:34 PM | #18 | |
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So is this where the idea that everything bad that happens to us is God's chastening? |
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09-30-2006, 03:40 PM | #19 | |
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OH, CHris! Ick. THat is *exactly* what I grew up hearing... even the phrasing. It's like there are a bunch of mouthpieces out there spouting the same sick recorded message.
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This kind of stuff is spiritual abuse--plain and simple. I know the men who stand in the pulpit don't think of it that way, but they're just functioning as clones of whatever school of thought they came from... trying so hard to persuade and change the hearts of men themselves that they push God's real children into a state of fear and insecurity and self-deprecation. It makes me sad... and angry. That is not shepherding--it is fear-mongering. Off topic rant over... |
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09-30-2006, 04:20 PM | #20 |
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I hope someone asks me if God has ever spanked me! 'Cause I'll tell 'em.
I thought the will/spirit came from Dobson. Er . . . that's where I heard it first in those movies. C |
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Re: a question for those who use to be punitive
So where does Dobson get this idea from? What is his reasoning behind it?
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09-30-2006, 05:38 PM | #22 |
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i've heard it in old, old stuff. like puritan sermons. :/
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If God did "spank" us then we could blame every awful thing that happened to us on him...like my baby died, and when religious people insinuate it was "God" who made him die...I feel like hating God. So no wonder people who get trained this way, when something really tragic happens to them, they turn from God because they've been taught that God "spanks" us.
This has been my 10 month struggle now...was it God? or not? If it was, I wouldn't want to serve such a mean God...so I have to believe that Satan is the one who "kills steals, & destroys" not God. And if Satan is the "killer, stealer, & destroyer" then God isn't and he is a loving God who doesn't spank us. Just what I've been working through... Quote:
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After our Elise was born (still), my DH's boss (whose little girl died when she was two) told us, "Don't listen to people who tell you that this is God punishing you. They are incorrect. It's not. If it were God punishing you, you'd KNOW it for sure." I *think* that was his way of saying that God uses consequences that are logical and not willy-nilly. But God didn't kill our babies. I know He didn't. C |
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10-02-2006, 12:21 PM | #25 |
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This is bringing up so many memories from when I was growing up. I've heard all these exact things preached - using the exact same words, no less!!! No wonder I have had to really work on being able to trust God, if that's the view I was taught by spiritual leaders.
I'm so glad it seems that these trends are changing. So very glad.
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10-02-2006, 01:48 PM | #28 |
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Chris,
I have similar tendencies, and I've lived my whole live in fear, waiting for the shoe to drop. Growing up, everytime one of my friends moved away (I lost my "best friend" in 3rd grade.. again in 6th grade... again in 9th grade... etc.) I believed God was trying to "get my attention" or "teach me a lesson" by taking away someone I loved, and that if I didn't "learn" my lesson, He would just keep taking away people who I loved even more--like my family. I am ALWAYS terrified of losing the people I love... not in the sense that I know I would grieve and such, but in the sense of dreading it--almost waiting for it to happen--like I'm being stalked or something. My view of God is slowly, slowly changing, but it's going to take some time to undo the fear and dread that were instilled in me and the and "I'm-being-punished" glasses through which I tend to interpret things. |
10-02-2006, 04:36 PM | #29 |
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Chris--if God GAVE you MS because of not taking care of your body well enough then He isn't a loving God That is mean; that is spiteful; and that is not the action of a loving God who loves us so much he died for us, and loved us while we were yet sinners. What you are saying is that unbelievers, the unrepentant, get more grace than the saved
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(And, spinning off, within Christianity, don't we act as if God shows more grace to those "in the world" than the children in our families "in the covenant?) |
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