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02-04-2010, 06:33 PM | #136 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
We tell our kids, "try again" when they don't react properly. No rules against telling yourself the same thing as many times as necessary. In fact, modeling that process for them is probably GOOD for our DC.
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02-04-2010, 09:16 PM | #137 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
I actually managed some self-talk tonight. We had a busy day, and though the kids had gotten dinner, I hadn't gotten to eat yet. I was nursing the baby, and dd1 was in my bed theoretically trying to go to sleep, but in actuality flopping around and talking to herself. Ds3 is in his room whining that he wants a kleenex, and ds2 is in the bathtub yelling "I'm DONE!!" (wanting me to come get him a towel). I could feel myself getting riled up, but I stopped and thought to myself: "You are tired and hungry. You are frustrated that so many little people seem to need you simultaneously, and that your dh isn't around to help out. It is okay for them to wait, and soon they will all be taken care of and you can have some time to yourself." I took a few deep breaths, and actually felt much better.
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02-04-2010, 09:54 PM | #138 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
Way to go Laura!
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02-05-2010, 12:09 AM | #139 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
the time between dinner and bedtime is killer. My mom (single parent of two) called it the suicide hour!
I think that if you can manage that talk during *that* hour, it's nothing short of impressive.
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02-27-2010, 12:03 AM | #140 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
bumping this for somebody
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02-27-2010, 07:46 AM | #141 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
Okay, so help me this morning, DH has had an awful time sleeping this week, not falling asleep til late, like 1 am, and then not being able to fall back asleep when E wakes at 4-5 am. So he's sleeping in, I got up at 7:45 am with both girls, and I hate not sleeping in and am grouchy that they.just.don't.sleep.
I know he needs his sleep but I do this every morning all week. Oh, I need to take my vitamins and eat breakfast somehow.
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02-27-2010, 08:52 AM | #142 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
Wantin to sub and have 9 more pages to read though
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02-27-2010, 12:13 PM | #143 | |
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02-27-2010, 12:37 PM | #144 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
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True. But I was needing help talking me out being grouchy and blaming girls for not sleeping later. I wasn't nice when I took them potty. But Dh made coffee and blueberry muffins when he got up.
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03-01-2010, 04:48 AM | #145 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
ooh.. muffins... good idea!
and funny of all funnies... the big girls were actually quiet enough to let me and the baby sleep until 6:30 this morning... |
03-01-2010, 07:04 AM | #146 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
Well, you don't really try to talk yourself OUT of anything, that will make you more frustrated IME.
"I am really sleepy and I"m cranky that I don't get to sleep in, and it makes me mad that dh does, and I hate having to get up and fix the girls breakfast when I'm cranky and sleepy and then I have to take them potty and I'm still tired.......... I don't know, right there, just stops me from being so irritable. Just saying it keeps me from feeling so self righteous about taking my sleepy cranky self out on my kids who need to go potty.
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03-01-2010, 07:43 AM | #147 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
For me, I think saying it out loud makes me realize how 2-yo I'm being, and get myself into a more reasonable frame of mind. Otherwise I just think it in my head and get more and more 2 in my reactions, lol.
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03-01-2010, 09:16 AM | #148 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
Exactly, Jema. When I realize the age in myself that I'm parenting I'm often
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03-01-2010, 11:58 AM | #149 |
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Re: s/o parenting self-talk
Yeah, I think I mentioned before that mine is usually two...and is tired and hungry...that helps a lot, honestly.
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03-01-2010, 02:39 PM | #150 |
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